Becoming a Woman

From: http://www.briannaaustin.com/

Do you dream of life as a woman 24/7?  Is it reality or fantasy that drives you?

Many of us have fantasized about becoming a woman; waking everyday with silky smooth legs and curvaceous bodies. Gliding in high heels, wearing makeup, garter-belts, and stockings and blending in.  Enjoying our feminine self without any hecklers or unwanted remarks. For some this is more than fantasy, it is a life long objective just within reach.

There are so many t-sisters out there searching for happiness convinced that they would find it in womanhood. For a very few, some who are truly transsexuals – woman trapped in a man’s body -- they do find happiness. For too many others it was but an empty illusion. Cross dressers often experience such joy in the female role that some seek that joy all the time. But one must recognize the illusion they experience. When one dresses up and steps out in our high heels (or stays in), the joy is in the magic of that moment.  But it is just that – a moment; a fleeting utopian second. Can the experience really be sustained? 

First off, many CDs don't dress because they're displaced women in a man’s body.  Dressing provides an escape from something; whether it is an over bearing mother, father or wife, a release of the pressures of one's job, an ability to express a part of one’s self more comfortably through a female persona, sexual gratification or any of dozens of other descriptions. What am I saying? I am saying that it is great in a limited space of time, but to do it everyday may not be the dream one imagines. 

When many men dress they leave the problems of life with their male identity and escape into the wonderful carefree life of womanhood, and it can be delicious. It's delicious however because they don't have any of the problems of LIVING as a woman.  When you seek to be a woman all the time however, you re-enter back into the real world. Your previous problems, from which you were trying to escape, are no longer escapable as a full-time woman.

Moreover, the problems are still there except you now have to deal with them as a woman, which is not an easy task. I have had so many men say to me “I am so relaxed as a woman.” Perhaps they are relaxed because they have escaped the day to day grind and pressure of life. Many CD’s when they are in their “I have to dress” frame of mind, can’t think of anything else. They will put off important issues until they are done in an hour – a day or a week later, knowing that they will return to the issues at hand when they are fulfilled. Many times they return feeling renewed and refreshed. But if you were living as a woman you could not put these things off; they would be part of your life and have to be dealt with timely.    


Not only does transition mean dealing with life “as” a woman; it means experiencing life “not” as a man. Many of the benefits of being a man will disappear, and there are many benefits in this society to being a man I assure you. I am not trying to de-rail anyone's desires of pursuing their dream of transition or full time dressing. I'm infusing some hard reality to consider before leaping: make sure you've thought it through, weighed the realities against the fantasies, and are driven by the core of who you are and not by the person you like to be, sometimes.  

Moreover, a woman has been practicing her assimilation into society all her life – from childhood through the teenage years right into adulthood. She has been prepared to live in society as a woman, learning about her strengths and weaknesses, the advantages and setbacks. You have not. A man who was used to certain access, attention and respect may be very frustrated by the new lack of it. Many trans-girls say to me “I get so much attention as a girl, more than I ever did as a man.” Honey that is sideshow attention, you are the spectacle, the organ grinder monkey. The monkey gets lots of attention – what does that really mean? Would you get more attention and respect at work, in applying for a loan, making a business deal, or is it only at the tranny bar? Give that some real honest thought.

Choosing to transition is not about convenience either.  Because it may be a hard road doesn't make it the wrong road.  It's a decision however that does require taking all things into account.  

In 1985 I had a dear friend known as International Chrysis (see photo at left). She was tall, feminine and beautiful -- ala Rita Hayworth. She was a bombshell who was very comfortable in her gay sexual orientation, unlike many cross dressers who have internal struggles over whether they're gay, BI or heterosexual. She had started hormones at the age of 16 and in her 30s -- with an hourglass figure and 38-C breasts -- at times would question her decision.

I spent many nights with her as she cried saying “what have I done, I am a monster.” When I asked what she meant she said, “I should have just been a gay man.” I was stunned. How could this be? She was beautiful, feminine and had no question about her sexuality.  She was a natural candidate to be TS, yet still had internal conflicts. 

People assume that everybody fits into a clear mold based on certain factors, I certainly did. Chrysis struggled with life as a woman spending most of her time androgynous in her hairstyle and clothing. Only during a night out, or doing a show did portray the illusion of a woman, yet always referred to her makeup and wig as drag. “Let me get out of this drag” she would say at the end of the night.

It was only a year or so before her death that she let her hair grow and began to accept and portray the role of a woman. She even landed a speaking part in the movie Q & A with Nick Nolte shortly before her untimely death, and was thesubject of the documentary Split.  (She is greatly missed!)

A current friend is on a fast track to transition; the hormones are flowing, breasts are growing, skin softening and surgery is being planned. When she is complete - does that make her a woman? She still reacts like a man, has the temperament of a man, thinks like a man and has the libido of a man. So with the body of a woman what is she? On the contrary, my very dear friend Teryl-Lynn Fox (the former Miss Gay Louisiana and countless other titles), never even dressed up the first time until she was in her late teens, and within a few years started living full-time.  She said it best: “Womanhood is something you have to grow into, it is not something you just become. It is a journey that evolves – changing continually.” 

Many of my other friends struggle for a sense of understanding. Is my current friend a gay man looking for validation? Does she think in her mind that to be with a man would be O.K. if she were a woman? Sexuality plays a huge underlying role in the lives of many cross dressers. Another friend once told me “I am not gay, I am only with men when I am dressed up.” “Does the dress make a difference” I asked?  To her it apparently does. This is not to portray that all cross dressers are confused about their sexual orientation, because there are many that are very comfortable in their heterosexual -- or homosexual -- orientation. But if they were heterosexual then that would make them lesbians wouldn’t it? On second thought,  that is another article all together. 

“Your body is the taxi that carries YOU around” I once wrote.  Who you are is what this article is all about, inside you, your heart, your spirit and your soul. Don’t rush off in hope that transition will make your life better; find out who you are first. When you get in touch with that, then, and only then are you ready to deal with a life-altering decision.  

If you have the spirit of a woman and really want to bring your body in line with “you”, which you believe in your very bones should have been a woman, then transition makes sense, but absolutely anything less is a tempting but empty fantasy.

As always, be happy, be safe, and think pretty.

Sex as a Transwoman

From: www.thestranger.com

Speed dating doesn't usually appeal to me. But when I saw a speed-dating event specifically for queer and trans people, I couldn't resist. I was traveling, and my expectations weren't very high, but there was one person I hit it off with. She was hanging out with trans friends, and all signs said she was perfectly safe. Still, I must admit, there was a tinge of hesitation on my part. You'd be surprised how many people are fine with having trans friends but freak out at the prospect of a trans lover. After the event ended, I worked up the courage to make a move. Before I knew it, we were making out in a hotel room.

For trans people, sex can be an anxiety-laden issue. Sexuality has been used as the basis for a lot of discrimination against trans people, who are treated as sexual objects, and the medical system has a long history of putting trans people through twisted expectations around sexuality.

For example, the first time I went to a therapist, out of the blue he asked me if I ever masturbated while wearing my mother's clothing. I was taken aback by his incestuous suggestion and only later realized it was apparently a diagnostic test. (Supposedly, if you crossdress without masturbating, you're a true transsexual, but if you masturbate, too, then it's just a sexual fetish.)

Liking sex too much, in the wrong way, or with the wrong people can mean you don't get access to hormones. After decades of this system, trans people learned and taught each other how to jump through all the right hoops. For some, it's just about preparing younger trans people to deal with the doctors. Many of these outdated notions have been removed since the turn of the century; however, large portions of the trans community continue to enforce them anyway.

When I was first transitioning, an older trans woman explained one benefit of testosterone blockers: They kill your sex drive. She said fetishists can't stand it, so only the true women remain. My jaw dropped at the implication that real women don't have sex drives, but I remembered her lesson—pretend not to want sex or people will judge you.

When I hook up with someone, the ghosts of those conversations are often in my head. Others invest so much attention in how trans people use our genitals. Are they expecting me to penetrate them? Will they be disappointed if I don't want to? Will they be disgusted if I do? With so many other people's desires for my body, it can be hard to know my own desires. At some points, I can't tell if I'm actually averse to certain kinds of touching or sex, or if I just think that I should be. Either way, the result is the same: anxiety if we try it.

Sex should be humanizing. It should be about what you want to do, not what you think others want you to do. That's actually a big part of why I got into making porn and erotic documentaries. I wanted a space where other trans people and I could take center stage and represent ourselves in our own vision.

I love moments in which being trans just doesn't matter. It can happen in porn, with a familiar partner, or just with someone who I know is a good ally. I don't have to stop to say, "Wait, there's something about me you should know," as tension rises for a dramatic reveal. I don't feel like there's some toxic cloud hanging over me that requires us to sit down and have a serious conversation. I can feel like any other person. In the throes of passion, I don't want to have to ask a potentially mood-killing question like "Are you afraid of seeing me completely naked?"

As it turned out, that night after speed dating, we kept our underwear on the entire time. I don't know if that's something she wanted or something she thought I wanted. With a Hitachi Magic Wand pressed between us, I stopped imagining everything that could go wrong and just focused on all the ways we could make it go right. Honestly, we probably could have benefited from some more communication. But, for once, I was grateful not to need it.

So how do you make sex great when you or your partner is trans? Do you talk it all through or do you pretend it doesn't matter? Do you plan out each move or be spontaneous? It depends on circumstance. The best advice I can give is that while sex when you're trans can be really complicated, you don't have to make it complicated.

Communication can be powerful, just don't make it be about being trans. Discuss with all your partners what words turn them off and what words make them hot. Ask someone you're with what sort of sex they want to have, what sort of touch is good, and if there are any spots or activities to avoid. Know what you might expect but don't make assumptions. Take stock of your anxieties and ask for whatever reassurances you need to feel safe. Above all, remember sex is supposed to be about fulfilling the desires of the people in the room, and you should ignore the messages from others who might judge. 

Tobi Hill-Meyer is a multiracial trans woman activist, writer, and filmmaker. She runs the feminist porn site DoingItOnline.com, and her work can be found in Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community and atHandbasketProductions.com.

A Quiz: What Kind of Sissy Are You?

From: sissymaker.com

1. What’s your favorite kind of panties?

A. Black ruffled full-bottom knickers with white lace edging

B. Cum-stained thong pulled to the side so I can get fucked

C. Whatever I can steal out of the hamper or at the laundromat

D. Pretty cotton bikinis that lay flat over my tiny clit-dick

E. Whatever looks good on Mistress’ floor while she strapon-fucks me

F. Whatever makes me look and feel the gayest

G. Panties that can stretch over my locked-up chastity device

H. My ass gets fucked so often I never have time for panties

2. How do you like to eat cum?

A. My own, licked off a silver platter at Mistress’ feet

B. Hot fresh cum straight from the cock through a gloryhole

C. I don’t, I want to be a sissy but cum freaks me out

D. My own, I can hardly taste it anyway, I only cum a few drops

E. My own, shot into my face while Mistress dildo-rapes my ass

F. Any way I can get it, girlfriend — faggots love cum

G. My wife’s boyfriend’s cum, as much and as often as he wants

H. Gallons of it from lots of men for hours on end

3. I jerk off to fantasies of sucking cock because:

A. Mistress told me it was one of my chores to perform

B. I can’t wait to go back to the gloryhole to be a cumdumpster

C. It makes jerking off in my pretty panties feel kinkier

D. My teeny dick isn’t big enough for me to stick it in anything

E. Mistress has been training me to deepthroat with her strapon

F. I love being a faggot and what’s more faggy than sucking cock?

G. I’m practicing to be a fluffer for my wife’s next gangbang

H. Because sucking cock leads to swallowing cum & I LOVE cum

4. Something you’re likely to find up my ass is:

A. A fluffy feather duster while serving tea at Mistress’ luncheon

B. A stranger’s cock while I keep on sucking at the gloryhole

C. My girlfriend’s pink rabbit vibrator while she’s working late

D. Whatever it is, it’s about twenty times bigger than my dick

E. Mistress’ strapon, or a buttplug as a “placeholder”

F. Cock cock cock — helLO, didn’t I say I was a faggot?

G. My wife’s black boyfriend’s 9-inch monster cock oh god it hurts

H. About a pint of cum from various “donors” and someone’s lost ring

5. What are you doing down there on your knees?

A. Scrubbing Mistress’ dirty stopped-up toilet with my tongue

B. Waiting for another cock to pop through the hole in the wall

C. Looking under the bed for a dirty pair of my wife’s panties

D. Looking for the magnifying glass so I can see my cock to jerk off

E. Waiting for Mistress to finish strapping on a 12-inch dildo

F. Giggling when I burp a cum-bubble after sucking off another fag

G. Weeping while my wife screams orgasmically on a huge black dick

H. Getting cock at both ends and begging for more cum

What’s Your Score, Sissy Slut?

Mostly ‘A’ Answers: FRENCH MAID SISSY
Well, well, mademoiselle…looks like you’re a frilly French Maid sissy! You long to spend your days cooking, cleaning…and serving Mistress’ huge strap-on. Imagine spending your days at my beck and call, doing my bidding as you clean my house, handwash my panties, rub my feet or eat my pussy, perform for a gathering of my fellow Mistresses or serve as the centerpiece at a sissy gangbang! Call me now to receive your orders, sissy servant.

Mostly ‘B’ Answers: COCKSUCKING GLORYHOLE SISSY
You live to suck anonymous cock, anywhere you can get it…and the easiest place to get it is at a gloryhole. You go to adult bookstores, cruise Craigslist, look for hookup bathrooms, all so you can get some cock on the downlow. We both know you’re a filthy cock-whore, so call and confess the nastiest thing you’ve done on your knees.

Mostly ‘C’ Answers: BICURIOUS WANNABE SISSY
Not yet a sissy, you fantasize about being a faggot fairy princess while you jerk off in your wife’s stolen panties and fuck yourself with her dildo. You are such a sad little Secret Sissy, hiding in the closet all alone with your cockcraving desires…you know your destiny is to be a sissy cumdumpster, darling. Might as well call me and get started.

Mostly ‘D’ Answers: TINY-CLITTY SISSY FAGGOT
Awww, it’s so cute! Poor widdle wee-willied wankers like you are pretty much doomed to be sissies due to your underendowment. You might as well wear panties 24/7, peaches, because you definitely don’t have what it takes to fill a real man’s jockies…and your panties look so pretty and flat in the front! Make sure and give me a call so that you don’t ever forget what a worthless tiny-dicked sissy loser you are.

Mostly ‘E’ Answers: STRAP-ON SISSY SLAVE
Bend over, boygirlfriend, it’s time to get your sissy ass fucked! For you strap-on buttfuck sluts, it’s all about getting reamed till you cream by my huge strap-on dildo…and no one gives fags like you a better rodeo ride than Ms. Liz. Ready to hop into the saddle, cowgirl? Give me a call so I can see you grind on my dick while you moan like the whore you are…

Mostly ‘F’ Answers: PINK-PANTIED FLAMING HOMO
You are such a fag! You love being as flamingly faggotty as possible, because you want everyone you see to know you’re a cocksucking fairy and you’re proud of it! I have 20 years of experience as a fag hag, darling — if you aren’t as queer as a three dollar bill when you call me, you will be when I get through with you!

Mostly ‘G’ Answers: CUCKOLDED HUSBAND SLAVE
You both fear and worship the huge black cocks that make your wife moan the way you never could…how did you end up on your knees in womens’ lingerie, sucking your wife’s pussy-juice off of a big fat nigger dick? It probably all started with you being a tiny-dicked wimpy whining sissyfag, don’t you think? Call me and we’ll work out how you went from straight married man to sissified cocksucking cuckold.

Mostly ‘H’ Answers: CUM-HUNGRY SISSY WHORE
You’re just in it for the cum, slut. Cum is all you can think about, all you crave, what you live for…so it’s a good thing you’re a sissy whore, isn’t it? Being a sissified crossdressing cock-milker gets you as much cock and as much cum as you can swallow, which is a LOT. Call me and tell what your personal best record is for loads of cum in one evening.

Guidelines for Sissies - Two Selections

General Guidelines for Sissies

by sissydollyanne from: malefemininitygenderrolereversal

Many of the following points are covered in the Fetlife group "sissy rules" but are listed here for completeness.

1. All body hair should be removed by shaving, or the use of commercial depilatories at least twice a week, more if necessary to remain smooth. Facial hair such as beards and mustaches, are strictly forbidden. Advanced sissies should have periodic body waxing and/or their body hair permanently removed with laser or electrolysis treatment.
2. If possible, hair on top of the head should be grown out to a longer length, with sideburns trimmed short or removed. Hair may be dyed, streaked, or tinted. Hair should be shampooed and conditioned daily and kept neatly arranged, brushed, combed, and styled, and should have their hair permed and set in a feminine style. Feminine hair pins, flowers, and bows should be used to keep the hair controlled and add interest.
3. Fingernails and toenails must be kept in immaculate condition at all times. Fingernails should be grown to a longer length and shaped in a feminine style and painted with a clear polish or kept buffed to a nice shine. Advanced sissies will wear colorful nail polish such as red or pink at all times and will have periodic mani/pedi treatments at a nail salon.
4. Only female undergarments will be worn daily such as: panties, girdles, panty girdles, pettipants, garter belts, full-fashion hose, stay-up hose, slips, teddies, chemises, bras, corsets, etc. At least 4 of these items will be worn—under normal male attire when necessary—every day. Advanced sissies will wear at least two female outer garments with their male attire in addition to the undergarments. Advanced sissies will throw away all their male underwear and only have girl's panties.

5. Loungewear around the house will consist of such things as: feminine pajamas, girl's short shorts, capris, feminine sandals or flip-flops with painted toes showing, blouses, tube tops, cute girlie tops, mini-skirts, heels, sun-dresses, etc.
6. Sleep attire will consist of feminine nightgowns, teddies, or nighties. Bra and falsies will be worn to bed also. Advanced sissies will also wear a wig and makeup to bed.
7. Only feminine deodorants, shampoos, conditioners, skincare, personal hygiene, and fragrances will be used.
8. Eyebrows will be plucked and shaped at least once a week to achieve a more feminine appearance. Hints of makeup should be used daily, even with male attire. Choose one type of makeup each day and use it lightly so as not to be too obvious, e.g., lightly penciled brows of a touch of mascara. Advanced sissies will use more makeup and be more obvious. Advanced sissies will also have ears pierced and wear appropriate earrings in each ear.
9. Each day, perform some chore or service for a woman without compensation. Examples: make and serve coffee at the office, run errands, carry packages, give up your seat or place in line.
10. Once a week, cross-dress as completely as possible and live as if you are a woman. Wear makeup, wig, and dress in a complete ensemble with appropriate accessories, including bracelets, rings, necklace, earrings, dress, hose, heels, purse, etc. Spend a minimum of four hours as a woman. Take at least one picture to keep in an album. While dressed, carry out an appropriate feminine chore or activity, e.g., housework, laundry, sewing, kitchen duties, shopping. Advanced sissies will cross-dress completely 7 or more times a week and will frequently appear in public as a female.
11. In the presence of a woman or a group of women you will always be passive and subordinate. Always smile and present a cheerful outlook. Don't argue with a woman or presume to correct her. Always be obedient, cooperative and courteous. Open doors, hold chairs, and be very attentive when you are asked to act as an escort or chauffeur. Never make sexual overtures or attempt an aggressive role in social relationships. Advanced sissies will be noticeable obsequious in public and in the presence of a Mistress or Dominant woman.
12. Exercise regularly, follow a sensible diet, get plenty of sleep, and keep your body physically fit and trim. A healthy sissie is a happy and useful sissie!
13. Once a month, mimic the female menstrual cycle. If possible, keep this on a calendar or use an app for this purpose. Pay attention to heavy and light days, fertile and ovulation days, and track your moods. Keep pantyliners, pads, and tampons in your purse for emergencies. Stay chaste during your cycle.
14. Maintain a regular diary of feminine thoughts and your cross-dressing experiences. Keep notes on purchases, exercises, diet, good deeds, feminine activities, and social interactions. Note what you did well, and also note where you need to improve. Keep track of your menstrual cycle and sexual life.
15. Read women's magazines daily for information on trends and fashion. Also read women's books daily such as romance. Watch TV shows and ads of interest to women, e.g., skin-care ads, soap operas, gossip, dancing, and fashion shows.
16. Cultivate a feminine hobby such as: doll collecting, needlework, cooking, floral arrangements.
17. Choose a feminine name and use it as much as possible. Practice cursive writing that looks more feminine, dotting the i's with little hearts and decorating with smiley faces, flowers, or other feminine touches.
18. Study feminine mannerisms and speech patterns and do your best to imitate them, even when dressed as a male. Always sit to pee. Practice sitting with knees together or legs crossed at the ankles. Bend your wrists and elbows and carry your arms above your waist. Practice a shorter gait and make your hips swing a little.
19. If possible, stay locked in a chastity device to prevent masturbation and erections. This will also help you to focus on feminization.
20. If not possible to stay chaste, masturbate only when dressed as a girl and in a girlie manner, such as rubbing yourself through your panties, and/or rubbing your nipples. Do not masturbate like a man. Masturbate only to sissy porn, such a pictures of men, cocks, sissies sucking cocks, sissies being disciplined or fucked, or girl-on-girl sex. Always taste or eat your cum. Never masturbate for 7 days during your menstrual period. Advanced sissies will abstain from ejaculation for as long as possible and will learn how to do erotic blow-jobs and extract cum from men. Advanced sissies will learn the art of deep-throating and cum swallowing.

Some Sissy Sex Rules

by pussyfreecuck From: https://fetlife.com/groups/38424/group_posts/5566865

Sissy Sex Rules

• Sissies will be obedient to all Females and Real Men at all times, with priority given in this order: 1) Genetic Females, 2) Pre or post Transgender Females, 3) Real Men—Black, 4) Real Men—white, 5) Other sissies.
• Sissies will give top priority to the sexual satisfaction of Females and Real Men to the exclusion of their own, and will never say no when sexual satisfaction is requested.
• Sissies will use their tongues and mouths as their primary sexual tools when providing pleasure to Females and/or Real Men. For Females this will be as directed on the pussy, ass, nipples, or wherever they choose. For Real Men this will be as directed on the cock, balls, ass, or wherever they choose.
• When permitted, sissies may also use other sexual tools such as: fingers, hands, vibrators, dildos.
• Sissies will be skillful in the art of sensual massage, including the use of sensual oils, aromatherapy, romantic lighting and music.
• Sissies will be skillful in the art of rimming.
• Sissies will be skillful in the art of pussy eating, kissing, and clitoral sucking.
• Sissies will be skillful in the art of cock kissing, licking and sucking.
• Sissies will not be shy when it comes to licking, tasting, or swallowing a Real Man's cum and will eagerly work to bring it forth.
• Sissies are girls and will never masturbate in a male fashion.
• Sissies will be skillful in the art of masturbating in a female fashion, but are only allowed to do so if given permission, or specifically requested by a Female or Real Man.

• Sissies will accept strap-on sex from Genetic Females and fucking from the cocks of Transgender Females or Real Men in their lubricated sissy pussy and will always respond in a girly manner in whatever position desired, including spread-eagled on her back, doggy, or cowgirl style.
• Sissies will keep their sissy pussy clean and lubricated, plugged with butt plugs, and ready for sex when desired.
• Sissies will never ask for sexual activity with Genetic or Transgender Females. It is always at their request and discretion and dependent on the sissie's obedience.
• Sissies WILL ask for sexual activity with Real Men who are receptive and will allow it, and will use their mouths or sissy pussies as pussy substitutes.
• Sissies will not discriminate on the basis of race, color, creed, or gender and will eagerly serve whites, blacks, or other.
• Sissies will accept chastity from Females and/or Real Men who desire it.
• Sissies will remain pussy-free, and leave pussy fucking to Real Men.

Q&A Session on Becoming a Girl

A Q&A session you will enjoy. Quite nice. [Modified slightly]

From: http://katiesissygirl.tumblr.com/

Hey, Katie, it is a pleasure meeting You, thank You for Your time! 

Q1: So, if You recall, when was the first time in Your life life You realized "this excites me"? 

Q2: Care to share a little bit about Your kink? what excites You most and what not so much?

Q3: How do you feel about boys?

Q4: What event in Your life would You name to be the that one. I mean, what made You into who You are today? (note: i say not in disgracefull, but in rather proud way) 

A1. I was in 7th grade and I found that I was looking at the other girls’ clothes just as much as I was looking at the girls. I saw a girl in a denim mini skirt and colorful tights and it wasn’t long before I wondered what it would feel like to wear them. I don’t know if I thought it would make me feel closer to the girls or if I really wanted to feel girly. But once I tried on my first chunky sweater, skirt, and tights, I loved how it felt.

A2. I like to dress up and feel like a woman. I like to experience dressing like all kinds of women. I like to dress like a real school girl with a cardigan, a peter pan blouse, knee length plaid skirt, tights and loafers.

Other days I like to dress as a slutty school girl with button up blouse tied at the waist, very short plaid skirt, thigh high socks, and high heel mary janes. I like to dress as a lolita. I like to dress as a cheerleader. 

I like to dress as a professional woman going to work with a nice dress or a basic silk blouse, skirt and pantyhose. I like to dress in yoga pants and a sports bra with a loose sweatshirt. When I had a bit of a belly, I even tried maternity clothes. I love it all. If I’m feeling horny, I’ll dress sexy and play with toys. If I’m not, I love to dress and watch TV or sit at my desk with my legs crossed. I like to feel feminine. If there’s anything I’m not into, it’s bondage and since I (probably incorrectly) associate PVC and latex with that, I stay away from those too.

A3: When I am a girl, I like boys who look at me in a certain way. I can tell when they like me. It makes me feel feminine. I also want some boys to ask me out. Most of all, I dream about boys dancing with me and kissing me passionately.

A4. The first time I shaved my body was the point of no return. I get my legs waxed now but there’s nothing like feeling smooth legs for the first time. Having sheer stockings on them and looking down to see shiny feminine legs attached to your own body. Can’t beat it.

Email to a Doctor - How to Feminize My Son

This email was written by an unusual mother. I view it as pure fantasy.

Email to a doctor

I am a pregnant with a son. However, I really want it have a girl. So I've been doing research, and it looks like I could feminize him to be similar to a girl. It appears as if feminizing boys is actually a good thing. I am not completely sure of this, which is why I am sending you this email.

I only want what's best for my son. But while feminine men are not women, I find that feminine men are more pleasant to be around. They have better hygiene; smell better; are more civilized; have more class; and they are less prone to violence and aggression. They make better husbands because they are men that women can relate to, and they have a better fashion sense, which makes them a better choice for women.

Let’s face it, there was a time when the masculinity in men was needed for the benefit of the community. But now, in the 21st Century, with the technology we have, it’s not as useful for a man to strive to be masculine. In fact, in today’s world, the problems men have outweigh their benefits. I have been doing research about parents feminizing their sons. Many have done so with positive results. This is why I'm considering feminizing him as much as I can by raising him to be just like Mommy’s little girl.

Feminists are suggesting we should raise our sons the same way we would raise them if they were daughters. Since you are both a feminist and a sexologist, I thought you might be a good person to talk to about this. I have already chosen a unisex name, Addison, for him. If I go forward with this, I will start by buying girl clothes, girl toys, and girl bedding for him.

I’d rather he grow up to be a “sissy” than one of those men who get thrown into prison for violent acts. So I want to feminize him. Also, research indicates that feminized sons have better bonds with their mothers. They like to do things with their mothers. They are more affectionate. They are more docile and friendly. They are more civilized. They are more hygienic. They sit down to urinate, which means no piss all over the toilet and on the floor around it. They are less wild, which makes them easier to manage. They are better behaved than boys who are not feminine. They are less likely to get into fights with other kids. They are less likely to become trouble makers like some boys are. They are less likely to become sexual, which means less likely to become engaged in affairs and less likely to masturbate due to disregard for their penises. It’s also been shown that feminized boys tend to do better in school than their more masculine counterparts.

One thing that concerns me about feminizing him is, if someone were to first meet him, would they think he is a girl? I found the following on a website.

"Some Mothers and other women ask the Question...How do I get my guys to be more Feminine? Their Reasons could be numerous....an Abusive husband, an Unruly Male Child, Unchecked "Macho" Behaviours from their Testosterone. Whatever. As a man that has always been Feminine Oriented, I was more into Feminizing myself, but it sure would have been Nice to have someone Encourage me and Guide me on the Road to Femininity!

A Friend of mine sent me the following E-mail, and asked me to publish it on the Blog. It deals with the Subject of How to Feminize a Male. You might Agree with what he says....you might Disagree. The Purpose of this Forum is to bring different Perspectives on the Trends of Male Femininity and Empowerment of Women....Not All Agree, but different Perspectives are Welcomed and Encouraged. I hope you enjoy the Posting from Tony!

I would like to write an article for your blog Titled how to steer your boy down the feminization trail. and ways to demale your son. Demale techniques If you are like many single moms thinking about feminizing your SON or sons, there are many things to consider. Have you been fanning his macho boy ego?? Have you bought him gender specific toys and games? If so it is time to put that to an end. Proper and effective feminization has to move along sort of gradually, unless you are one of the 'Radical Feminists" who have a secret network and can do some very special things with their highly trained girls, to help take out a boys "special boy makers" and leave him no choice but to become a girl. [but that is in radical instances.]

Most normal moms need to look at how their boys are dressed. You can't just get up one day and say, "Randy you are wearing panties today" or no more soccer for you boy, now it is Cheerleading for you. If that was done more boys would be running to the local police or school nurses and complaining of abuse.

Things that moms need to start doing.

Wardrobe changes like slowly bleach shrink and destroy any shirts that have Male or Macho Ego themed brands . No more Nike Adidas, Vans dc shoes Osiris, and generally skater type shirts. Sneakers as well need to be made more unisex. stay away from blue and boy orientated colors. Some of our moms , love to secretly "cook' their boys expensive brand name sneaks in the microwave for a few minutes to make them fall apart when he is wearing them. so then they have a reason for buying him cheap unisex converse all star sneakers or Wall-mart or K-Mart specials.

As if it is 'his' fault for not taking care of his stuff, you will have done wonders to lower his male self esteem and ego. The cheaper and more ugly the sneakers the better. Most of our Demale Society mothers love converse because they can point out in a mall "hey look that girl has the same shoes, they look good on you too. *See how we slowly assimilate the boy to a more feminine outlook? His brand name macho shirts are replaced with more pastel and softer colors. Name brand jeans fade into sweat pants and slacks. As for video games, keep them as non violent as possible. Do not give in to sports titles, fighting games ww2 shooters. as they fan the boys violence. More girl or female orientated games like Tomb Raider, resident evil has z great girl character if you want to let him play some violent game .

Chores: you must insist your boy do and complete chores. Do not let him feel and act like a little prince.

Sports: Most boys love or try sports. While the exercise is a good thing the male bonding is a no no. They do not need strong male role models ,and macho friends if you want a real sissy boy to blossom. Try again "secret' destruction ' maneuvers. If you have a macho skater boy, mess up his skate board, so it falls apart, and looks like he abused it. Baseball gloves go missing, bats break, football equipment dry rots or shrinks.. and can all be made to seem like it is HIS fault.

And when he is bad ground him from sports. Do not let him play if he is bad. But if you have an over sported brat and you want him to become a sissy cheerleader.. you must get him started on male hormone blockers and female hormones.. as young as 9, is ok as the female hormones will stunt his growth and make him more lady like in appearance, and the male hormone blockers will not allow his muscles to get strong like other boys , make him slower and more calm and eventually quit sports, which at that point, you suggest more lady like activities. We use a vitamin replacement trick, putting androcour in a vitamin b12 bottle and female hormones in a vitamin c bottle. They work wonders.

If any moms need dosage help or instructions , our resident friend and feminist leader, Dr Lucy, will help you. The results of a boy taking this special formula is what more moms need to do and try it is a must. Feminized Men Make the Best Husbands! Women that Take Control of their Relationships with Men and Boys, and Encourage Male Femininity are the Pioneers of the Future!"

Feminized Sons - 3 Stories

I found three nice stories about feminized sons. They appeared in Experience Project in the "Moms Feminizing Sons" topic.

I'm particularly intrigued by stories and life experiences where a feminized boy dates other boys. Why? Because it was my fondest desire when I started dating. 


#1: MY FIRST DATE
I once picked up a book called The Story of a Gentleman with a subheading One Man’s Tale of Homosexuality.

The book was biographical and told the story of a boy whose mother went about feminising her son. One time she caught him wearing one of her dresses when he was just entering his teenage years. She was a very possessive and jealous woman, rather than punish the boy for wearing her clothes, she encouraged him in his dressing as a girl, in the hope that this would discourage girls from taking an interest in him.

Although she didn’t want the boy to socialise with girls, she didn’t object to boys taking an interest in him. Some would even sleep over at the house where he lived, and sometimes they would take him out on dates.



I’ve often wondered what it would feel like to have been feminized by my Mom who would later see to it that boys would not only take an interest me, but would take me out on dates, while I was dressed as a girl. She would also make sure that the boy I was going out with knew that I was a boy and that he had to treat me as he would treat a real girl. He would be wearing a suit and shirt with a necktie, the necktie being the most multicultural of all phallic symbols, as it is representative of male genitalia. As I would be wearing either a skirt and blouse or dress I would not only be denied the phallic symbol of a tie, I would also look and be expected to feel distinctly feminine.

Unless I was wearing a full-length dress, my legs would be on view and this would draw a boy’s eyes to them. Even more so if I’m wearing a dress with one or two petticoats beneath it, which would have had a widening effect on the skirt of the dress, thus exposing more of my legs. My Mom would think that at 14, I would be too young to wear pantyhose and would have had me wear knee-length socks or ankle ones with lace at the top to make me look more feminine.

I very much doubt I would be wearing a dress with long sleeves, probably one with short puff ones or a sleeveless gown depending on what the occasion was. My gown may or may not have shoulder straps and because it is sleeveless my arms and upper chest would be exposed. There would be more of me exposed than that of my date as most of his body would be hidden underneath the jacket and trousers of the suit he’s wearing. He on the other hand has the luxury of pockets where he can not only keep his money and keys in, he can also put his hands in them if he wanted, whereas I would have to carry a purse for my things. And as this is my first date I wouldn’t know where to put my hands except in my partners when I’m dancing with him.

Quite often when I’m thinking of this scenario I get a funny feeling just below my belly button, a bit like butterflies in the tummy, I also get a bit light headed. Sadly I’ll never know what it would actually feel like to go out with a boy on a date. Perhaps that feeling of butterflies or light headedness is what it must be like for a girl out on her first date with a boy.

By: "deleted"

#2: My Mother And The Way She Help To My Feminization 
AUTHOR'S NOTE: I would like you to know that English is not my native language. I hope you can understand my writing, despite any misspellings or bad grammar. Thank you. [PS: I have made a few corrections to help the flow.]

My parents were divorced when I was about 3 years old. Since that age, I remember my dad used to visit us every weekend to go to the  park. My brother and I never were affected by our parents separation, since the only real change was now we only saw our dad a couple times a week instead of everyday.

My mother used to dress us in a very androgynous way. I didn't care about that. Sometimes when we were out with dad, other people, especially women, came close and said, "you have a beautiful daughter". For me it was normal. I was never aware about that until I grew up and saw pictures of us at that time. 

One time, my mother even put me in a very cute blue princess dress. But then our dad started to discuss with mom the way she dressed us. He bought us more boy's clothes. We dressed in those clothes. Mom seemed to understand that we shouldn't be wearing girl's clothes. My mother was raised in the middle of 7 girls, so she grew up on a very girly way. Perhaps that was the reason it was hard for her to raise boys.

After some time, when I was about 6 years old, mom got married again and suddenly we had a stepfather every day at the house guiding us on the way to be more boy-like. But I came to prefer doing girly stuff: play with our cousin's dolls and dresses, wear my mom's clothes and shoes, and practicing makeup and feminine manners when we were alone. My mom always defended me from our stepfather's scoldings, saying that even though I was his son, she had more rights about the way she raised me.

My little brother always knew I wanted to be a girl, but he was happier being a boy. No matter that my mom was not making us use girly/androgynous clothes, I still had the feeling she always treated me different than my brother. She didn't let me do the things boys are allowed to do. I was overprotected the way moms overprotect daughters and I noticed it was not the same way with my brother. He had a more boy-like aptitude and looked stronger than me. Later, she said I was very fragile and she was being protective for my own protection.

When I was teenager, I started to go out with my girl friends dressed like a girl. I loved to do it every time I could.  The day mom and our stepfather discovered that I had being going out to parties dressed like a girl with my friends, it was as if she always knew it and she was waiting to talk with me about that.

Our stepfather gave her some advice to try make me more "male", including cutting my hair, going into my closet and throwing out all my girly clothes. I went to a Psychiatrist and took anti-depression pills. They forced me to go to college and take an engineering degree even when they know my real passion was the arts.

As soon I was of legal age, I left home and started in art school. At the same time, I started to live full time as a girl. My mother was always worried about me, now more than ever, but over time, she let me grow up and become the woman I am today.

She eventually got divorced again and I usually visit her on weekends. We are still very close. We like to go shopping and do girly stuff together. In the end, she always knew that I was her daughter.

By: "tsecretgirl"

#3: Mommies And Their Boys 
...Ok..so what is it about mommies who love having femme sons..I'm 18 now and live at home with my mom. My Dad left when I was about 4 and has never come back. I have been raised with great love and affection and I live everyday as a girl, though I was born a boy.

All through my early childhood, I exhibited very femme traits. I liked being with girls and loved the way they looked. I can remember how much I wished I could be just like them.

I know now that mommie saw this in me and was waiting to see how it would develop. She kept my hair long...and I liked it...I loved having a ponytail. The clothes she bought me...especially in the summer, now seem to have been chosen to compliment my femme characteristics....my long hair, my nice legs...and as I got to age 9, my boy tits, which had become both noticable and prominent.....once, when we were shopping...she had me try on some very strappy gold open-back sandals..omg. They were so sexy....and she asked me if I liked them...and I blurted out... yes, I do...Well, she bought them for me...and in the car on the way home I put them on and mommie told me how nice I looked in them.

That same night, mommie asked me if I wanted to be a girl....I didnt know what to say. I started to cry and I remember mommie holding me and telling me it was ok to feel the way I felt...I told her that I liked being like her and she kissed me and told me that a lot of boys want to be like their mommies. I really didnt know what to think....but for some reason...I just felt so safe and secure in her arms and I told her over and over that I loved her...she held me tight and told me that I should have a bath...she told me to undress while she got the bath ready. I did what I was told.

The bath water was sooo warm...oh I remember feeling so great in the tub...mommie had changed and wore just a cami and panties and came in and began to wash me. I got on my knees and she washed my fanny and soaped and washed my dickie...it felt so nice...but i guess I just didnt know what to feel.

After my bath, she dressed me in a silk jersey and blue silk panties and I remember that the feeling of wearing panties was so intense that I just leaned on her and cried.

She brought me to a mirror in her bedroom and asked me if I liked what I saw....omg...i looked so much like a girl...I told her...yes, and she hugged me and she pressed her titties into me.

She asked me if the way I felt was the most natural way...and I said yes...it was the way I wanted to be.

By: "deleted"