Sexual Response in Post-Op Transsexual Women - How It Feels

Excerpted from: http://www.tsroadmap.com/

There is a wide range of libidos in postop women, just as in natal women. Some women are very highly sexed, the majority are moderately sexed, and some are asexual and have little libido at all. This section is relevant for those postop women who have healthy libidos, who experience sexual arousals and who desire ongoing sexual fulfillment and orgasms.

 

Most postop women having healthy libidos begin to experience their first postop arousals within a month or two after surgery. After a initial period of low sensations and even numbness, they then experience "turning on" due to engorgement of remaining internal erectile tissue (corpora and spongiosum) that was left during SRS. The arousals produce a feeling of "erection", but one that is different than for guys, since it is inside their bodies.

 

For some postop women, it may take much longer for these arousals to begin, especially if they were inactive sexually and/or asexual prior to SRS due to their gender angst. However, even these postop women will eventually begin to experience genital arousals and the onset of sexual desires if they have active libidos.

Consider the following: "Another factor in sexual function is your endocrine system...After surgery, some women find that their adrenal glands (the other source of testosterone) do not produce enough to provide adequate libido or orgasm. You may require a small amount of supplemental testosterone to regain functioning. The amount required is typically far below the amount that will cause any other unwanted side effects, such as hair growth. Not everyone requires this, but keep in mind that some do."


Many natal women who are having difficulty in feeling turned-on and in achieving orgasms (especially post-menopausal women) are now taking Estratest tablets, which contain a combination of estrogen and small amounts of testosterone. Some post-op women who were experiencing difficulty in arousals and orgasms began using Estratest too, and some report that the therapy helps them. These tablets contain either 1.25 mg or 0.625 mg of estrogens (as in Premarin tablets), but also include a small amount of testosterone in each pill.


In any event, once a postop woman begins experiencing arousals, the nerves in the clitoris and vulvar surfaces become highly sensitized, and sensual and sexy feeling permeate her body. Then, just as during pubertal sexual awakening, she will automatically feel urges to play with her body and to masturbate. The arousals will gradually intensify as her genital area fully heals from the SRS. Masturbation and sexual activity can likely play a role in helping neural regeneration and sensitivity during this period.

There are many ways to masturbate, but one favorite way for girls to do it is to "rub on a pillow". The girl does this by lying face down on her bed, with a firm pillow between her legs. This way she can rub her vulva and clitoris on the pillow while squeezing it, putting pressure on her clit and also being able to thrust and thrash around. At the same time she can play with her breasts and body with her hands. Alternatively, she can rub her clitoris with the fingers of one hand while squeezing her legs and thrashing around to stimulate her body. Girls discover these ways just as automatically as boys discover "jerking off", even though girls have been more secretive about it our society in the past.


While masturbating, the pubertal girl will suddenly begin to experience her first orgasms, and she is then on her way to developing her full sexuality as a woman. In just the same way, the postop woman needs to explore her new sexual anatomy and masturbate, and learn her new sexual responses and experience her first orgasms as a woman - learning what most girls do in their teens during puberty.
This ongoing pubertal aspect of immediate postop life can be very thrilling and exciting, but also very confusing and scary for the woman, much in the same way that the onset of sexual maturity is for any teenager.


For some insights into this process, I highly recommend that you read the very candid webpage by entitled "M -> F Transexual Post-Op Orgasms - A Personal Perspective", by Monica Stewart. Monica's site stresses the need to gain experience with your new sexual responses prior to having intercourse. It is also important to try to get over hang-ups about what's "OK" and what's "naughty". Then too, many woman enjoy experiencing playful anal stimulation, including using sex toys to overcome inhibitions and enhance arousals.


Most women also learn to use fantasies to trigger and enhance arousals and orgasms. Those fantasies can be used during masturbation, and then later used to help heighten one's experiences during intercourse with a lover.


Thus we see that transition and SRS are just the very beginning: They enable the girl enter her new puberty.

Following SRS, the perfunctory feeling of male ejaculation during orgasm is gone forever. Instead, you can build up your sexual arousal to a much higher level without ejaculation bringing things to a halt. It may take more time to reach it, but you can now experience a more powerful orgasm - with the old male ejaculation feeling now replaced by an intense neural discharge and spasm throughout the entire genital area during orgasm.

It feels kind of like you are being gently stimulated with electricity inside and throughout your entire genital region. The experience can vary a lot from orgasm to orgasm in the way in which the "neural halo and spasmodic colors" of the orgasm develop, spread, and feel. It seems almost as if most men so easily and quickly reach ejaculation that they never manage to get "high enough" sexually to trigger this more powerful form of orgasm.

In addition, there are real differences in "body feelings" during lovemaking between the male and female experience (although many of these feelings will be "female" in form for preop TS women too). Most males are usually stimulated visually by their partner's body-appearance. Once aroused, they usually feel a growing "tightness inside" and a desire to "grab and hold and thrust and penetrate". This desire comes on suddenly, and quickly becomes quite overpowering, with most of the sexual sensations coming only from within the penis itself. However, when the release of orgasm occurs, it is usually much more perfunctory than for a woman, being accompanied by a few spurts of semen and a few grunts and that's it. The ejaculation is then followed by quite a sudden letdown and loss of any interest in sexual activity.

The sexual experience for the postop woman is much more "internal" within and throughout her whole body than for a male. The arousal may start in her genitals, but then can spread all through her lower body, especially inside the muscles, and her skin all over her body becomes more sensitized to caressing and touching. Instead of sexual arousal being just in the genitals as in a male, the estrogen seems to also enable a powerful "heat" to fill the woman's whole body once she is aroused - and especially once she is being penetrated. Having this heat come over her in the absence of a partner, and without any satisfaction, can make her feel like "climbing the walls" or "thrashing around in her bed".

 

Since her whole body becomes much more sensitive to touch as she get fully aroused, she is not stimulated so much by her partner's appearance as by the way he (or she) touches her and manipulates her body and the way his (or her) voice sounds. She doesn't feel the hard focused drive to quickly achieve orgasm as do males, but instead feels a desire to let go and thrash around and be "handled" and gradually heighten her erotic feelings. It isn't what she is seeing that counts as much as what she is feeling and hearing and how her body is being manipulated by her partner, as she yields to the wonders of sexual heat and lovemaking. And usually she'll like to take some time to do this and enjoy this, instead of just "rushing for ejaculation" like most guys do.