Gender Role Reversal

Do you live and dress as a women full time or most of the time? You imply that a woman should just forceably make a man feminized? A smart one manipulates him so he thinks he has a choice but she is in control. if you give him some leeway, but dominate him, it is much easier.

My husband is completely feminized. He is now a woman full-time at my request. He has completely feminized our three sons and, while I was cautious about this, I let him do it with some help from me because it was what I really wanted. But it was his idea. 

I masterminded the entire plan. He is my best friend and lover but still expects me to be in control, support the family and be the decision maker. My new friend that I met a few months ago has a husband similar to mine, except he feminized himself.

At her suggestion, she got him to dress up once in a while for fun and eventually he just liked it so much, he completely feminized himself with hormones. He is very much a woman, but like my husband, still has some use of his male member. They are a loving couple and they get along great. He took it upon himself to feminize their two sons. Without her knowledge, he began giving the boys testosterone suppressing medication when they were 8 and 9. After a couple of years, he started them on light doses of hormones and the male characteristics have almost been completely suppressed.

She did not figure it out until, at early puberty, their bodies were becoming very girlish. Today they are two very nice looking young girls now at 16 and 17.

They have attended school as girls for the last 4 or 5 years and are completely accepted a such. They have breasts, a narrow waist and round hips. Their parents told the school administrators that they were both born with both male and female organs (very rare) and the school just accepted it. They have been exempt from most PhysEd and other contact situations.

They still have male members but they never really developed beyond that of about a 7 year old boy. Their testicles are almost non-existent and, of course, they are sterile because of the hormones. The husband has been on hormones for years. He was a chubby man before and the hormones alone gave him a very feminine body. Initially, he added a lot of weight, mostly on his thighs, chest and stomach. He was a very nice looking size 16, but after a few more years he is now a size 20 because a lot of extra weight went to his stomach. 

Today he looks great from the chest up but really looks like a pregnant woman. He has very soft features, beautiful silky looking hair. He looks like a very attractive big woman. He has a 42DD chest and regularly wears very attractive tops that emphasize his cleavage. His likes his breasts.

He seems happy and is a truly remarkable person. My own husband could use some more on top but he definitely looks like a knockout with his narrow waist and round bottom. He fits perfectly into most size 10 dresses. His transition from a pantie-wearing man when I met him to a beautiful blonde knockout is my crowning accomplishment. Plus my 3 sissy boys are fantastic. We are a very loving family.

How to Pass as a Woman

How to "Pass" As a Woman

What does it mean to be a woman? Our appearance isn’t always determined by our chromosomes. Some men have typically feminine traits, and some women have masculine features, too. Our gender in made up of a variety of beliefs, characteristics,
and behaviors.

Passing as a woman doesn’t just involve wearing makeup and stockings. There is a complex set of traits to keep in mind as well. For individuals assigned male at birth, blending as a woman can be a challenging, even frightening endeavor. Whether you are transgender or just having fun, this article will help you achieve convincing femininity.

1 Consider the whole package. Take time to decide what type of woman you want to look like. This greatly influences the other steps. How old are you? What is your body type? What kind of style do you want? Envision the woman you will become. You can be classy, provocative, trendy, or even angelic. What you want to look like will change over time, and outfit choices vary from day to day.

Remember to always dress for the occasion and take your daily life into account. If you will be passing as a woman on a regular basis and work in a professional environment, provocative or flashy clothing will not be appropriate. If you’re going out clubbing, wearing more revealing clothes is fine.

If you’re passing as a woman for a party or special event, go all out. Be over the top in your clothing choices. Use your close female friends looks for fashion inspiration. Notice what aspects of their outfits you like.

2 Take a shower. Showering is the first step to looking like a woman. So much is done in the shower, including shaving, washing your hair, and getting generally clean. Females are known for having smooth skin, clean and shiny hair, and a clean body, so take your time. You may also need to spend some money on this step.

Buy quality razors to shave with. Cheap razors can irritate skin, and your body hair will grow back quickly. Invest in shampoo and conditioner that smell nicely. Feminine products are scented differently from male products. Get a loofah and body wash. This will help exfoliate your skin and leave it clean and smooth.

3 Lose the stubble. After you’ve washed your body and shampooed your hair, a close shave is a must for passing as a woman. Use a new razor and take your time. Also, be gentle; you don't want to irritate your skin. Using plenty of shaving cream and razors with three or more blades will keep razor burn to a minimum. If you really want to keep stubble away, you can try waxing, electrolysis, or even permanent laser hair removal, but consult with a professional first.

Shave your entire body, too. If you haven't done this ever or in a while, be prepared to spend a lot of time in the shower. You might go through multiple razor blades, so keep extra on hand. For more sensitive areas like your belly or armpits, avoid using too many strokes. Instead, use a few long, even strokes against the grain of the hair.

Use moisturizer after shaving. This will give your skin a soft, feminine feel while soothing freshly shaven skin. Choose a scent you like, too.

4 Pluck your eyebrows. Women generally have thinner eyebrows than men. Remove stray hairs by plucking them firmly from their roots. For highly stylized brows, you may want to seek a professional, but plucking eyebrows can easily be done at home.

The start of your brows should be about one inch above the inner corner of your eye. Remove the strays in between.

How to be Feminine

How to Be Feminine

Do you want to enhance your feminine side? If you really want to embrace your inner lady, then you have to adopt the mindset of a more traditional woman and cultivate grace, politeness and capability. If you want to project a feminine image, just follow these steps.

1 Wear the correct clothes for your body shape and size ones that are pretty and modest. Start wearing skirts instead of pants or jeans — nothing works better at defining you as a girl who cherishes her femininity. A skirt looks cute paired with a blouse, belt and flats. Don't wear skirts too short. The right length is just above the knee so you look demure and nice. Don't fall for the 'girly' trap of wearing pink or baby blue, if you look great in black or navy blue or perhaps maroon. Nothing really beats a classic pencil skirt, while a pleated skirt can be both cute and comfortable. If you've been wearing jeans for years, wearing a skirt will be a revelation; it will make you feel classy and feminine, especially when you're out with friends who are all wearing jeans or if you're the only girl at work wearing a skirt.

Dresses (fit & flare dresses with a belt) are sweet too. Always wear hosiery rather than bare legs. Go for the classic sheer look and avoid patterns. Tan or nearly black are also great colors to choose. Your skirt will help you enjoy the feeling of having your legs on display, so never wear opaque.

Wear flat shoes if you don't like heels. The key is to choose something simple and classy
Avoid the "just rolled out of bed" look. Don't wear anything that hides your shape. Whatever you wear, people should be able to tell you've put some time and effort into putting your look together.

2 Wear a little makeup. This step is not necessary, but it will help make you look a little more feminine. Red and pink lipstick and neutral eyeshadows will help to create a feminine look. But remember, you do not need makeup. Wear it only if you want to. If you're not comfortable with makeup, then so be it. If you're really opposed to makeup, make sure your lips are moist by wearing lip balm whenever you can.

3 Accessorize. In addition to your clothes and makeup, you should spend some time finding the perfect accessories to go with your wardrobe. You don't need a box full of accessories just a few key items can help tie your look together and can make you look more feminine. Here are some items to consider as you work on your more feminine look:

• A pretty silk scarf
• Pearl earrings or other studs
• A cute headband
• A ribbon hair barrette
• Some thin silver bracelets
• Rings that are cute, but not too chunky or flashy

4 Love every inch of your body. Your body is what makes you female, so how can you be feminine if you don't embrace your female form? A woman's body naturally has a higher body fat percentage than that of a man, so don't dismiss your curves. On the other hand, part of loving your body is taking care of it, so maintain a healthy diet, get enough sleep and exercise to stay in shape. Fortunately, you don't have to look like a model to look feminine. Loving every inch of your body doesn't mean flaunting your body or showing it off every chance you get.

More about Ladyboys

Source: http://www.godsofthailand.com/ladyboys/basics/transitions-of-a-thai-lady-boy/

THE 3 STAGES OF A LADYBOY

FEMBOY

A femboy is what some might see as a very feminine gay guy. While some Ladyboy lovers will feel totally un-attracted to femboy types and not like the idea of calling them Ladyboys, in many cases these are simply young Ladyboys who are in their early stages of transition.

Due to their circumstances they may not look totally convincing as a girl, they may not dress completely femininely or even have long hair or wear make-up, but something in their mannerisms and demeanor will suggest that they are more feminine than masculine, and it’s likely their friends and peers will already refer to them as a Ladyboy.

Most Ladyboys in Thailand decide they want to “make the change” at a very young age, but due to a strict school code many are unable to grow their hair long or express their femininity until after they have completed their education, despite the general acceptance of Ladyboys in Thai culture. Even once these young Ladyboys have finished their education it may take many years before they can really live with full freedom and expression, simply because many of the operations they dream of having are expensive and it’s harder to get an honest job if you look like a Ladyboy. Many, however, will still take hormone capsules from a young age to create a more feminine look, often achieving much softer skin and growing small breasts.

PRE-OP LADYBOY

A pre-op Ladyboy is the next stage of transition and what many people would call ‘a proper Ladyboy.’

The term ‘op’ refers to SRS surgery (the operation having their penis removed and a vagina created), and pre-op means they haven’t had this surgery done yet. However, unlike the term femboy, the term pre-op Ladyboy usually refers to someone who looks, dresses and acts extremely femininely all of the time, and in most cases they will also have had breast implants.

Most of the Ladyboys you will find working in the bars and gogos of Thailand will be at this stage of their transition, and many will have spent a lot of money on all kinds of surgery, from nose jobs, to cheek and hip implants. In many cases the only operation they have yet to take is the SRS surgery (aka the chop!).

POST-OP LADYBOY

A post-op Ladyboy refers to a Ladyboy that has had SRS surgery and no longer has a penis, but has a man-made vagina in its place.

It’s not always easy to tell the difference between a pre-op and post-op as many pre-ops have already had every other operation to look as feminine and lady like as possible, but you are far less likely to find a post-op Ladyboy working in a Ladyboy bar (with the exception of one or two post-op bars such as King’s Corner in Patpong, Bangkok, and Voodoo in Bangkok’s Nana Plaza).

Post-op Ladyboys tend to not be as popular with Ladyboy lovers, which is one reason why many Ladyboys working in bars choose to stay as a pre-op for much longer. Many post-ops will try to pass themselves off as real girls, and the more convincing ones will be allowed to work in ‘girl only’ bars and gogos (you’d probably be shocked if you discovered just how many post-op Ladyboys are making a living as a real girl in some of Thailand’s most popular gogo bars).

Blurring of the Boundaries

As with any talk of gender there are obviously those who don’t fit neatly into given categories and blur such boundaries. You may find that some Ladyboys live their life without ever taking hormones or having any operations, and yet they remain very totally convincing and feminine, while some may have breasts and hip implants and achieve very feminine figures, and yet choose to live a somewhat masculine lifestyle continuing to have some masculine parts to their personality. Then there are Thailand’s drag artists who work alongside the Ladyboys in cabaret shows and often look and act as feminine on stage, but once the show is over choose to remove their dresses and make up and return to a very male role.

Whereas the term Ladyboy and other transgender terms totally destroys the idea of having simple male and female gender categories, to assume that all Ladyboys can neatly fit into such categories as femboy, post-op, and pre-op, is equally as naïve; these are simply terms to loosely describe the types of Ladyboy you are likely to meet in Thailand.

When is a Ladyboy a LADYBOY?

Ultimately, many Ladyboys will go through some or all these different stages of transition, and undertake a lot of expensive and painful operations in order to reach their ultimate look and goal. In my opinion, to say that at any stage someone is more a Ladyboy than during other stages would be wrong, especially when considering that their stage of transition is often determined by their financial and/or social circumstance, which should not be factors in determining someone’s gender.

The term Ladyboy perhaps best encompasses a state of mind rather than an achieved physical state, and you will often find that some of the less feminine looking Ladyboys are still very naturally feminine in their behavior, demeanor and nature

Ladyboys

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Gender Identities

In Thailand, as elsewhere, one can find several different gender roles, identities and diverse visual markers of masculinity and femininity. The demand for positive self-identity is growing in Thailand and support is growing.

Tom identity
A "tom" is a female who dresses, acts, and possibly speaks in a masculine fashion. She may not actually be a lesbian, but she may be perceived as one by others. Toms wear short hair, a deviation from traditional Thai culture which prizes long hair as a sign of feminine beauty. Women usually wear skirts in Thailand, and in many government offices skirts are compulsory and pants suits banned. Toms dress in men's clothing—slacks, sandals, and loose fitting button—down shirts. According to Ara Wilson, a tom will use male speech terms, especially the old, now-crude pronouns "goo" and "mueng".

Dee identity
The "dee" is a homosexual (or bisexual) female who follows outward Thai gender norms. A dee will look, act, and speak in a manner congruent with Thai female gender norms. The only difference between dees and traditional females is that dee engage in relationships with toms.

Tom-dee within society
Heterosexual public displays of affection are frowned upon in Thai culture. However, minor displays of affection, such as hand-holding, between same sex individuals is considered the norm. In this way tom-dee partnerships can be invisible to the wider society.

  

Kathoeys

Although the terms "kathoey" or "ladyboy" are rather ambiguous, simply put, both terms refer to a male who dresses as and adopts the mannerisms and identity of a woman. Though the term is often translated as "transgender", transgender is rarely used in Thailand. Instead Thais use the term kathoey. This term can now also be used to refer to any male homosexual and was originally used to refer to intersex people. Due to this term becoming so broad, many choose to use the English word to explain a homosexual male dressing as a woman as a "ladyboy". The term can also be meant as an insult, especially to those who are trying to alter their identity. Ladyboys suggest that they are still men who are merely dressed as women. The term is used rather loosely at times and can be used to refer to any male who possesses feminine qualities. Personally most of kathoeys prefer to call themselves "a transformed goddess" or "a second type of woman".

Kathoey is a Thai term that refers to either a transgender woman or an effeminate gay male in Thailand. A significant number of Thais perceive kathoeys as belonging to a third gender, including many kathoeys themselves, while others see them as either a kind of man or a kind of woman. However, when considering transgender women (MtF) as a group in Thai society, most refer to themselves as phuying, with a minority referring to themselves as phuying praphet song (a "second kind of woman") and only very few referring to themselves as Kathoey. Related phrases include phet thi sam ("third gender"), and sao praphet song or phu ying praphet song (both meaning "second-type female"). The word kathoey is of Khmer origin. It is most often rendered by the racialized slur ladyboy or lady boy in English conversation with Thais and this latter expression has become popular across Southeast Asia.

Becoming a Woman - a True Short Story

At age 5, I believed I was a girl in a boy's body.

Soon, I started nosing around my sister's closet. On occasion, I would try on her clothes. This went on for years, secretly. When I was 12, I started shoplifting girls' clothes. "Putting them on made me feel calmer, more like myself. It was a stress relief." My deep desire was to talk to my mother about my need to be a girl. But it never happened. I was too ashamed.

In high school, I dated girls. "I was always attracted to women. But at times, I tried to imagine dating boys. I just knew that if I could make a wish to change into a woman, I would have done it every day. It became so stressful that I'd throw all my women's clothes in a dumpster and swear, 'Never again will I do this!'"

Ten years went by. I secretly researched every aspect of transgender topics and read blogs written by trans women. Things finally became clear. At 25, I decided to say good-bye to Me and live as Nancy.

Confession

"Can we talk?" I asked my wife. The pressure that had been inside for 25 years had finally been revealed. I was looking into my wife's beautiful brown eyes. I made my confession: "I'm a transsexual." My head dropped to her chest. I explained this was something I'd been struggling with all my life. She said: "That's all you were going to tell me?" She told me she wasn't going anywhere. Somehow she knew. I was greatly relieved.

Therapy

I found a psychotherapist who wasn't too far away. I was able to find one who specialized in gender issues. I knew what I needed to do and was eager for a therapist to unravel whatever it was that had gripped me for so long. I really wanted a referral to an endocrinologist - certifying that I was mentally stable enough to start hormone-replacement therapy (HRT). But during the one- to two-hour sessions I attended at least once a month, just saying "I want to transition" out loud gave me confidence and made me feel less crazy. Several months later, I got the referral.

"Are you sure that this is what you want to do?" the endocrinologist asked at our brief meeting. "Yes," I said. And with that, I was written a prescription for low doses of estrogen, progesterone, and Spironolactone. I made an appointment for three months down the road.

Hormones

Those three little pills were my turning point. Initially, it was difficult to tell whether the differences I felt were from the hormones or from the excitement about my change. Soon, I started to feel more normal, emotionally and physically. The hormones softened my skin, made my hair grow faster, and redistributed some of my body fat—my arms slimmed down and weight moved from my chest to my hips. And yes, I'm starting to develop breasts.

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Personal Stuff

I've always loved sex with my wife, and I wanted it to continue. Eventually, HRT caused me to lose the ability to get an erection, and at some point. And my desire to have full sex-reassignment surgery, which entails removing the male genitalia and creating a vagina and clitoris, was my goal.

I wondered: will my wife still find me attractive? Will she still want to have sex with me? How will I continue to have sex with my wife if I can't get hard? Somehow it will work for us.