Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Two Distinct Types of MtF Transsexuals

Source: https://sillyolme.wordpress.com/2010/02/13/counting-noses/

TYPE 1: The prototypical feminine androphilic transsexual was called a “sissy” by her peers growing up.  She avoided rough & tumble activities.  Her primary social circle consisted of one or two girls.  She actively participated in girls games and imaginary play.  Her parents were embarrassed by her femininity, and may or may not have sought professional help in trying to discourage her behavior.  As a young teen, she became interested in girls fashion and make-up, often exploring how she might look as a girl by dressing up and experimenting with make-up.  This did not involve erotic cross-dressing.  She had crushes on boys at school.  Her peers thought she might be homosexual.  She was hassled, perhaps even bullied, by homophobic boys, but otherwise was reasonably popular in her chosen circle.  She was considered very neat and well dressed in boy’s clothes.  She sought out opportunities to interact with small children and infants, taking on babysitting jobs.  As she approached adulthood, looking at her own nature, her potential future, both romantic and economic, made a rational decision to transition to living as a girl so as to grow up to be a woman socially.  Her family may or may not have disowned her in late adolescence.  As she is naturally feminine, she found that she was socially and romantically more successful as a womanShe actively dated men while pre-op, but assiduously avoided direct contact with her penis, finding that emotionally uncomfortable.  She lived several years as a woman, taking feminizing hormones, before having SRS to improve her sex life, replacing genitalia that she didn’t use with those that she did.

TYPE 2: The prototypical autogynephilic transsexual was accepted as a boy as a child, though she wasn’t the most masculine.  She was often a “loner”, finding her hobbies and reading to be more rewarding, but still willing and ready to participate in rough & tumble play.  She often envied girls and observed them more often than most masculine boys.  As she entered puberty, she began erotic cross-dressing in private, often masturbating while dressed, usually with lingerie.  She found this shameful and hid her cross-dressing as best she could.  She entertained thoughts of living as a woman, often in very idealized situations.  As a young adult, she dated women, often finding it necessary to imagine that she was female to “perform”.  She typically hid this fact from her dates.  She fell in love and found that the previously growing desire to live as a woman abated for a while.  She married and had children.  Her need to cross-dress… and use autogynephilic ideation grew, as the first blush of their romance matured into committed love.  She agonized about it obsessively, trying alternatively to push it out of her thoughts and trying to appease it by cross-dressing.  At one point, perhaps in her early 30s, or in her late 50s, a set-back or other significant personal change brought all of these feelings to the fore… and she made the fateful decision that she could no longer ignore her sexuality.  After having tried to ignore the cognitive dissonance between her successful social identity as a man, husband, and father, and her obligatory autogynephilic image of being female, concluded that the female image is her “true” image.  She then made steps to begin counseling with a gender therapist, obtained prescription for feminizing hormones, and then began the painful steps to living full time as a “transsexual”, since she had too many social connections who know of her previous status as a man.  She had SRS within a short time of nominally living as a woman, as she was impatient, feeling like she had waited long enough in her previous life as a man.  Her wife may or may not have demanded a divorce.

Sunday, October 30, 2016

How to Feminize a Man

From: http://bit.ly/2f2VqhO

Stage 1

Shave legs, wax his bikini line. He needs to understand all the things we girls go through. Ideally make him also shave his balls, cock, and all his pubes. Keeping smooth for you should be a daily task for him. I love waxing men’s bottoms and back. Nothing like running your hand over his nice smooth form bottom.

Once you have him starting to dress, take him shopping for his own clothes. If he is a suit man, get him to buy skirt suits, maybe, and only maybe allow him a nice trouser suit so long as its very feminine. The purpose of him buying his own girlie clothes is to reinforce physiologically that these are his. Let him choose them, but of course steer him in the right direction.

Don’t forget to reward him for doing these things for you. Give him sex as a reward. Training a guy is as simple as training a dog. Find out what he needs (usually sex) and then use that as a reward.

One great thing to do for both his training and your reward is as follows:-
Have some great sex. Tell him it is his reward for being good. But make him promise to finish you off your way for a change. You might want to tie him up the first time. One great way is to make sure he is laying on his back so you can sit on him and ride him. Let him cum deep inside you and fill you up. Then sit on his face. Yes, that’s right sit on his face and make him lick you. If he doesn’t start licking immediately grind yourself against him. He soon will get the message. Make him lick you until you cum again. Secretly he will have always wanted to do this. The thought of eating his own cum out of you will reward him and also reinforce your dominance. After a while you should be able to get him to do it without asking. If he doesn’t or protests tell him no more sex unless he does. He will soon be lapping it all up.

Don’t just lie there and wait for it to dribble out so you get the wet spot, or run to the toilet to let it drain out. Make your man clean up his own mess. After all he expects you to suck him and swallow it all, so why shouldn’t he do it too.

Stage 2
Strap on dildos and toys. I bet your man is always wanting you to use toys? Does he always want to have anal sex? Most guys have this thing about anal. They think it’s so great. This stems from their own desires to try it. So, I say why not, let them try it.

Next time your man tries to have anal sex, stop him and make him promise that you can return the favor, or better still do it to him first! This is where the great strap on dildo comes in (or if not a suitable vibrator or other toy).

The strap on is best. You might want to tie him up for the first time again. Best way is to get him on all fours (the same way he likes to do you) Tie his hands in front of him and maybe his legs to the end of the bed so he can’t escape. You might need to prop him up on pillows too. Sounds familiar ?

Next use lots of lubrication. He is going to be tight (just like you were) and remember be gentle (just like he was!). The first time go very slow and just work the tip in and out, each time sliding in a little deeper. It won’t take long before you can gently push the whole dildo inside. Resist the urge to start pumping it just yet. Let it slide all the way and just stay there for a while. Rub his back and bottom, maybe spank him gently (like he does you). Then hold his hips and slowly start to pump it. Just little pumps to start with. Work it gently and slowly and you will soon find that you can pull almost all the way out and then push slowly back in again. Once you get to this stage, increase the speed a little but not too fast or hard. The first session should be maybe no more than 5 mins pumping gently. Don’t be surprised if he cums by accident as he will love it. Try to make sure he doesn’t, but sometimes he will lose control.

After you have finished with him, then if you promised he could do you, you must fulfil your promise. If you promised something else or you let him do you first, then make sure you whatever you promised him you keep to. Remember we want this to be a long-term thing for him.

If you do it right, you can make every sex session into him getting it first. If you buy the right sort of strap on dildo, you will get immense pleasure from doing him. Some girls find that they cum more when doing it to him, than they do when he does them.

Sometimes you might just want to do him and not let him do you. I just find it so good for stress relief. I have a strap on dildo that is double ended and has a clit simulator on it to. When I come back from work stressed, I strap this on and give my man a good session. By the time I am done with him I am de stressed. If he is lucky I then let him have a go with me, but often I just let him stew for a bit or give him a quick blow job.

Once you have trained him with the strap on and other toys (I make him wear love balls a lot of the time) They drive him wild and keep him horny (they drive me wild too, so I often wear them), you have established your dominance almost fully.

You now have him dressing in what you want him to wear, you have sex your way and when you want it. You will be the dominant sexual partner, and rightfully get the pleasure you want.

He will now have an interest in coming shopping with you. You can shop together for shoes, clothes and undies. He will appreciate this seasons fashions and what colors go (hopefully), and will understand that perhaps stiletto heels although sexy are not the best type of shoes for all occasions.

He will also understand why you choose the color and style of underwear you do and not always the most colorful sexy, lacy thing you can find. He will know that boring cotton panties are more comfy than the skimpy lacy g string he likes. He will appreciate the difference between tights and stockings and their benefits to him.

He will also now appreciate the issues of waxing, shaving, make up, and will understand just how long it takes to get ready to go out.

With this new-found understanding comes a willingness to also please you in other ways. Round the house he will be more willing to clean up, and do housework. Reward him in ways that best suit his duties, but very soon you could have a fully trained house maid too.

Imagine, a clean and tidy house, and a guy that gives you sex your way whenever you want it, and who appreciates all your needs. A fun partner to share shopping trips with and who is enthusiastic about your desires, yet to outward appearance when he is at work or with his friends he is just a regular guy.
What a perfect time you could have.

It might not be easy to get every guy to this stage, and some will just not work out that way. However, it is worth trying some or all these ideas.

Step 3
This is for the girl who wants to take the whole thing to a much higher level.
We have gone through the basics, and now you have a guy who is just as happy (if not more so) dressed as a girl, feminized in his everyday life and dominated in sex. This might be perfect for some, but others of you out there might want to go further.

All the areas of stages 1 and 2 can be reversed or stopped, but stage 3 is difficult to stop or revere once it starts.

Estrogen and progesterone supplements. These will help him develop more feminine features and characteristics. It is only recommended you use these if this is something you want him to have. If this is what you desire then you can either add them to his food without him knowing or make him take them with his knowledge.

These will help him lose body hair, and get a more feminine figure. However, they may have an adverse effect on his penis and balls. He might find it harder to get an erection. This might be great if you are just into doing him with your strap on, but if you do like him giving you a good session then you may be disappointed. It is not always the case, and by no means does it stop him having sex.

The other area you could go for is minor cosmetic surgery. If you/he is brave enough, go for very small breast implants. Just enough to give him maybe an A cup (unless he is willing to go for something bigger). This size is just hard enough for him to hide, yet just big enough to let him show them off when he wants. Personally, I would prefer a full B or even C cup, but depending on his job this might be difficult.

Saturday, August 13, 2016

Real Life Interviews With Men Trapped in Men's Bodies

Extracted from: "Men Trapped in Men's Bodies: Narratives of Autogynephilic Transsexualism" by Anne A. Lawrence

Attraction to Men Often Reflects Desire for Validation of One's Femininity

Several informants who described their sexual attraction to, sexual fantasies about, or sexual interactions with men perceptively observed that their interest in men primarily reflected their erotic desire to have their femininity validated:
I am clearly much more physically attracted to women than men. Yet my primary fantasies are about being a woman with a man. As I think about this, I would concede that this may have much more to do with feminine validation than attraction. The very idea of being desired by a heterosexual man is erotic for me. (018)

Before the transition process started, I often fantasized I was a woman having sex with a man. A little while into transition, my sexual submission with men seemed to validate my feminine feelings. To have intercourse with men seems to be as womanly as anyone can get. (213)

I had sex with a real man. He made me feel Iike literally a whole new person. It is as if l had finally discovered sex; like having sex with a man who affirmed my womanhood was some kind of ultimate fantasy. (035)

I have had sexual encounters with eight men. These have been generally less than ideal, since they have all had trouble maintaining erections. None the less, I found I enjoyed the physical aspects of this type of sex and felt I was confirming my womanhood by being a passive partner. (068)

I fantasized about being penetrated by a man and wanted a boyfriend to confirm my femininity. (200)

I am a postoperative transsexual. I have found that I get the most sexually excited now when I fantasize about being sexy and beautiful and when someone else sees me that way. In fact, adoration from someone else plays into it. (069)

It occurred to me that I should consider sex with men - what better way to confirm my new status as a woman! The idea of sex with men used to disgust me, but little by little that changed, and I became tremendously turned on by the superior physical strength men have and my growing ability to turn them on just by flaunting my stuff. Getting men aroused gives me an incredible sexual thrill and confirms my desirability as a woman. (077)

I met a man who fell in love with me. When I was with him, I was happy to be submissive, I was excited to be looked after and to feel pretty and sexy. (214)

I sometimes have the sense that what really thrills me is not my sexual partner (i.e., the supposed object of desire) but rather what he makes me feel like. I would feel thrilled to be a sexy woman capable of arousing a man - a real, straight, masculine man. (189)

When I am a woman, I want to be with a man, acting like a woman, being treated like a woman and being loved like a woman. I know that this would be the ultimate for me.

I was living full-time. I had a boyfriend that I communicated with by e-mail. I even had a date with him when he was in my town. I enjoyed very much being treated like a lady. (215)

I am powerfully sexually excited by the idea of being desired by men and by the notion of being thought of as beautiful. The turn on is not me, but all the clothes. (216)

In all of the preceding narrative excerpts, the informants emphasized the validation they experienced from real or fantasized interactions with men. They described how the real or imagined men they interacted with made them feel about themselves: womanly, desirable, submissive, sexy, beautiful, attractive. They notably did not emphasize how they felt about specific men or about men in general (e.g., they did not describe falling in love with specific men or feeling aroused by specific men's bodies - or by men's bodies generally).

One informant reported that she experienced similar feelings of validation of her womanhood after being anally penetrated by another preoperative MtF transsexual:
I was with an Asian pre-op. She was totally functional, and I bottomed (anal) for her for about a half hour. It didn't hurt at all and I felt so feminine. I loved that I could cause a penis to orgasm the same way a natal girl can. It was so great to be totally submissive. I loved being an object of pleasure for someone. (034)

As this informant suggested, the ability to take a woman's sexual role (or something like it) in relation to another person’s penis is sometimes all that is necessary to experience validation of one's femininity. The gender of the person who possesses the penis may be of secondary importance.

Friday, July 22, 2016

Three Ways to Pretend to be a Girl

From: http://www.wikihow.com/Pretend-to-Be-a-Girl

Three Methods: Dressing the Part , Achieving a Feminine Look, Behaving Like a Girl

There are a variety of reasons why you might want to pretend to be a girl. Perhaps you are a man portraying a girl in a play or for a drag show, or maybe you are just playing dress-up at home for fun. 

If you are questioning your gender identity, then you might be interested in experimenting with being a girl to see how it feels. Whatever your reason for wanting to pretend to be a girl, you can do things to achieve a feminine look, dress the part, and alter your mannerisms.

Dressing the Part


Get a wig or style your hair. If you have long hair already, then you can just style it. If your hair is short, then you may want to get a wig to enhance your feminine look. When you are choosing a wig, make sure that you purchase one that is high quality if you want your look to be more convincing. A poor quality wig may not look as good.

If you are dressing up for a drag show or play, then you can go with an over the top wig, such as something that is ultra-­long, styled like a bee hive, or dyed an unnatural color.

If you just want to see what it feels like to dress as a girl, then try curling your hair, using a flat iron for a pin­ straight look, or braiding your hair.

Long hair will help you to look feminine and it can also provide some coverage from masculine features such as a square jaw, but having long hair is not absolutely necessary if you are just dressing up to see how it feels. If you have short hair, then you can also try styling it in a feminine way. For example, you can use mousse and  curl the longer pieces, or wear an accessory, such as a headband or barrette.


Put on makeup. Makeup can help to accentuate your features and give your face a more feminine appearance. If you have never worn makeup before, then you may need to watch some tutorials on how to apply it. Try checking Youtube for some basic makeup application tutorials.

If you just want to get a feel for what it is like to wear makeup or if you want to try to pass as a girl, then stick with a light layer of foundation, some light eye shadow and mascara, and a nude or pink lipstick.

If you want something more dramatic, such as for a drag show, then you can put on a heavy layer of foundation, black eyeliner, fake lashes, and some bold red lipstick.


Wear women’s clothing. Wearing women’s clothing is an essential part of looking like a girl. Lots of girls wear unisex clothing, such as pants, jeans, and t­-shirts. However, dresses are your best bet for drag shows because they are flashier. If you just want to get a feel for what it is like to dress as a girl, then wearing a dress or a skirt with a girl’s top will give you a better idea.

Choose a style that flatters you and shows off your best features. For example, you can choose a short skirt if you want to show off your legs, or a sleeveless top if you want to show off your arms.
If you are going for an exaggerated look, such as for a drag show or theater production, then you might want to choose something flashy, ultra-­feminine, or elaborate. For example, you could go with a sequined dress, a fluffy tulle skirt, or a hot pink evening gown.

If you are interested in dressing as a girl to pass as a girl, then try to choose clothing that is in style. Wearing current trends may help make it easier for you to pass as a woman.


Add some accessories. Earrings, necklaces, bracelets, scarves, and other accessories can help to enhance your feminine look. Choose an accessory that complements your outfit and that makes you feel pretty.

If you are dressing up with the intention of trying to pass as a girl or see how it feels, then you could go with a simple pair of pearl earrings or a dainty gold necklace.

If you are going for a more dramatic look, such as for a drag show or theater production, then go for some long dangling earrings, a long glittering costume jewelry necklace, or a lots of bangle bracelets.


Slip on some women’s shoes. Shoes are an essential part of your look. Select some women’s shoes that go with your outfit and that you will feel comfortable wearing. High heels are ultra-­feminine, but they can be difficult to walk in. You will probably need to practice walking in them before you go out in public.

If you are dressing up for drag or a play, then high heels may provide the most dramatic effect. Just make sure that you can walk in them without falling!

If you are experimenting with women’s clothing because you want to see how it feels or possible pass as a woman in public, then try starting out with some ballet flats, some low heel dress shoes, or a fashionable pair of sandals. Make sure that your toenails are painted if you will be baring your toes.

Achieving a Feminine Look


Shave facial hair, legs, and armpits. Getting rid of excess facial hair, armpit hair, and leg hair is crucial when dressing as a woman. Having visible facial hair can be a dead giveaway, so make sure that you give yourself a close shave before you start making the transformation.
If you don’t want to shave your armpits, then just make sure that you are wearing something that covers them completely, such as a long ­sleeve or ¾ length sleeve top.

If you don’t want to shave your legs, then you can also go with some opaque tights. Wear two pairs for extra coverage.


Tuck your penis. Tucking your penis back is an important part of passing as a girl. To tuck you penis, pull it back towards your buttock and between your legs. Then, put on two pairs of form-­fitting panties to help keep it in place.

Another option is to use a gaff. You can buy or make a gaff. To make a gaff, cut the elastic waistband off of a pair of pantyhose and then cut the top off of a sock. Thread the waistband through the sock so that the sock is centered.

To use a gaff, slip your legs through the two openings in the elastic and pull it up like a pair of underwear. As you do so, tuck your penis back. Then, adjust the gaff as needed and put on your panties. The gaff will help to keep your penis tucked back.


Put on a bra. Wearing a bra is an essential part of looking like a girl. Choose a bra that fits around your chest comfortably. Measure your chest around the widest part to see what size bra you will need. For example, if your chest is 38 inches around, then purchase a bra that is a size 38.

The cup sizes are lettered, such as A, B, C, D, etc. A is on the smaller end while a D cup is on the larger end. You can choose any cup size you like, but keep in mind that choosing a large cup size may make it hard to fit into some clothing. To play it safe, go for a B or C cup.[6] However, if you are dressing up for a drag show or as part of a play, then you may want to go for a larger bra size.
You will also need to stuff the cups. You can stuff the bra with socks, tissues, balloons filled with a few ounces of water, or special silicone bra pads.


Wear slimming undergarments. Wearing slimming undergarments or shape-wear can help you to get a smoother curvier figure. These garments can also help to taper your waist, which will help to make you look more feminine.

Try wearing a corset or girdle, a pair of shape-wear shorts, or a pair of pantyhose with a high waist.

Consider wearing hip or butt padding. If you don’t have much fat on your hips or buttocks, then wearing a padded undergarment or adding padding to your undergarments can help you to achieve a curvier look.

You can purchase pre-­padded undergarments or just slip some padding into your underwear or pantyhose.   For a drag show or play, you may want a more exaggerated figure. Try using more padding or even a pillow to create the appearance of curvy hips and big butt.

Behaving Like a Girl


Practice your walk. While there is no one way to walk like a girl, you may want to practice walking in a more feminine way. Instead of taking straight, hard strides, try to walk with a bit of a sway to your hips and lightness in your step. Unless you are going for an over ­the ­top walk, such as for a drag show, try not to place your feet directly in front of each other or pretend you are walking on a line because this can make your walk look too exaggerated.

If you are just trying to experiment with what walking like a girl is like, then just aim for some slight movement in your hips as you take each step.


Sit with your ankles or legs crossed. A masculine way of sitting is with legs spread wide and arms out to take up more space. Instead, keep your knees together and your elbows in close to your body. You can cross your ankles or cross your knees if you feel comfortable doing so. This seated position will help to give you a more feminine appearance.

You can also fold your hands on your lap or place them gently on the table in front of you.


Adjust your voice. Women tend to have higher voices than men and this can give you away as a man dressing up like a woman. If you have a deep voice, then you may want to practice speaking at a higher octave.

However, keep in mind that some women have deeper voices, so try not to feel self­-conscious if your voice is a little deeper than some other women’s voices.

If you are dressing as a woman for a drag show or play, then you can either use your normal voice or go with an over-the-­top girl voice.


Smile and laugh often. Some women tend to smile and laugh more than men. Smiling and laughing more often can help you to appear more feminine, so try to smile and laugh a lot. Unless it is part of your drag show or character, you don’t need to wear a big grin constantly or laugh all of the time. If you are just trying to get a feel for more feminine mannerisms, then try to smile and laugh a little more than you usually would.

You may also want to practice your feminine laugh. Listen to how other women laugh and then try to imitate it.

Thursday, June 30, 2016

6 Signs Your Girlfriend Is Bisexual


 Scoring yourself a lady friend who also enjoys women can be an exciting journey — so long as you are both prepared to embark on it.

Bisexuality obviously has its perks for some, and all the extra adventures can enhance your sex life. But she doesn’t have to be truly bisexual (in the most proper sense of the word) for the erotic feminine-loving side of her to emerge (with you present).
There are two versions of women who get it on with other women: the bisexual woman and the bi-curious woman. While bi-curious women are playful and ready to experiment with their sexuality just for fun, bisexual women may or may not be willing to ask you to join in on their girl-on-girl escapades.
Here’s how to tell if your girl is bisexual and whether or not she’s keen to play.
Being bisexual
Being bisexual is not something to be made light of. It can be extremely confusing and heartbreaking, and it might be difficult to deal with emotionally. A bisexual woman is not there for your erotic entertainment, so if you want to spend your time with a bisexual woman, get that out of your head — this is not what this relationship is about. If your girlfriend comes out of the closet, treat it the same as if she told you she’s a lesbian: with kindness and care. If she decides that she would like to experiment with you and others, good for you both. If not, don’t push it.

She openly appreciates women
Women who love other women and can appreciate their finer qualities are gems — they are generally not threatened by the beauty of another, and can join you in admiring them. Everyone loves pretty things, and women overall tend to be very pretty things. This is certainly not a definitive clue, but if she is able to appreciate the sex appeal of a woman, then it means her mind is open to observing such things… and maybe, just maybe, it’s also open to more.

She refers to past experiences
If she gets with girls — or has done so in the past — it is likely enough that it will get bought up at some point. With all the woman-smooching that’s been going on in the last 10 or so years (apparently everyone is doing it or has done it), it is highly likely that she has done it at some stage. Whether she liked it or not, and wants to repeat the experience, however, is another story. You will need to probe for more information.

She’s into girl-on-girl porn
Her loving lesbian porn is a dead giveaway. This will tell you a lot more than any other clue. If she can actually watch and enjoy a woman being pleasured by another woman, then it is highly likely that she wouldn’t mind a bit of that action herself.

She’s overly affectionate with certain friends
This can be a good clue, but don’t let your imagination run too rampant — it probably isn’t the girl you wish it was, and making up huge fantasies about your girl and her friends is likely to land you in trouble. Hinting will probably get you in trouble if you’re wrong, so keep it to yourself until you can see what is clearly going on.

Lovin’ the ladies
The easiest way to find out what she likes is to ask her. Amazing, I know, but true. She will probably not have a problem telling you about her experiences, desires and fantasies involving other women. She will be aware that it is one of man’s most sought-after experiences, and because of that, she’ll probably be quite willing to share.

The kind of conversation starter you could try is, “When was the first time you kissed a girl?” This assumes she has, and will no doubt make her giggle as she relates the story — or, it enables you to ask if she would like to (hypothetically, of course). Keep it light, keep it sexy, and maybe you’ll get what you want. Be respectful, be kind, and whatever you do, don’t push your luck — it has a way of backfiring…