TS Sucess Stories - A Sampler of Real Women

http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/

TS Women's Successes

 by Lynn Conway

Kurara Motoki (Japan)

Showgirl, Actress

Transitioned when young

Mianne Bagger (Australia)

Professional Golfer
Golf World story
(More: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
Playing in the Ladies' European Tour

  Haruna Ai (Japan)

Actess, TV personality

Transitioned when young

Kelly Van De Veer (Netherlands)

Singer, Actress (more, more, more, more)

Transitioned in her teens, SRS at 19 (more)

Aejaie Sellers

Co-owner of Carla's Social Club

Previously Director of the DeFrank Center

Transitioned with her parents' support

in the early 1980's, at age 17-18.

Sine (Korea)

Singer, entertainer (more, more)

Transitioned when young

  Jaqueline P. (Germany)

Graphic artist

 Donna Rose

IT Project Manager

Link to her new book:

Wrapped in Blue

Sally

Engineering and Information Technology Management Consultant, (FFS page)

Nungning (Thailand)

Physiotherapist, clinical instructor

Marisa Allen (Belgium)

Producer, director, entertainer

Marisa transitioned when young,

and is now married.

Lauren Manzano

Transitioned at age 16-22

Champion Cyclist

Certified Massage Therapist

Margaret Stumpp, Ph.D.

Senior managing director,

Prudential Investment Management

Veronica (Philippines)

Businesswoman, Trans advocate

Chairperson, Society of

Transsexual Women of The Philippines

Canary Conn

Writer, composer, singer;

Canary transitioned in the early 70's

and wrote an autobiography in '74.

Veronique Renard ("Pantau")

(Thailand, India, Netherlands)

Writer, Free-Tibet Activist

Her books: Pholomolo, Pantau in India.

Transitioned when young; SRS in 1984 at 19.

She is married and now lives in Thailand.

My wife wants to fully feminize me!

In my everyday life I have a very stressful job where I am in charge of over 50 people and I am also firing and hiring people. I also have to be in charge of most of the household finances etc. Over the past few months my wife has brought up during passionate times, about feminizing me. She feels it would be a worthwhile distraction! A few weeks ago, she sat down with me and had me read some articles about feminization. 

I wasn't sure she was that serious! Now I must admit that I get turned on over the thought! She now wants to fully feminize me which consists of corset training to create a permanent feminine figure and growing real feminine breasts along with laser hair removal and eventually feminine facial surgery! She said I could basically transfer from my job to another location where people are far more tolerant about my new role. 

I researched it for a few long nights after work on the net. She was right about the location and what a great location too! She also felt she would become in charge and I could experience a new and rewarding life. As a woman! I spent almost a solid two weeks dwelling on this and every time I delve into the idea, I get very turned on! My question to the ladies here is...If you, as a woman were to convince your hubby to do this, would you find it a turn on and enjoy his new role as a Her? What would you feel is the biggest advantage for the both of you as a couple? Thanks! I wanted feedback because if I actually feel good about this (As I somewhat do) It all begins in a few days!

Keely

If you really love her, then obey her wishes. You have said that she has decided you should have your own breasts, then obey her. You said she wants to corset train you, then obey her. I really don't see the dilemma here.

AlexisLori

I agree with Keely - Obey her wishes on this. Her decision has been made - you WILL be Feminized and grow cute breasts for Her. Clearly, Feminization is Her desire and you need to go along. If you're having a problem with the extent of the Feminization She will be putting you through - then think of it as 'Forced Feminization'. That way it's no longer your decision to make - you are freed of the responsibilities and consequences. There really isn't a dilemma any more - She has taken Control!

Nikolette

That's wonderful. You don't need to go all the way publicly unless you want to though. Just delve into it and see what it brings to you. The fact that your wife is interested in it opens up a wonderful opportunity for you. There is a book on Amazon called, "Feminizing Men - A Guide for males to achieve maximum feminization." Some wives evidently have given it to their husbands to make their feminization easier and more complete. It's short, but requires the feminizing male to be diligent and do many things which will truly help them project a more feminine appearance and attitude. Good luck on your journey you lucky gurl!

REVIEW: This is a great book that helps with and walks a man through the whole process of becoming more of a feminist, not only in appearance, but also personality-wise. When my brother chose to do this, my family opposed. But I had to be there for him. I wanted to support his decision. And so, when I came across this book, I immediately picked it up and gave it to him. And it meant so much to him. He, in fact, claims that it changed his life.

This book doesn't beat around the bush and directly tells you how to begin with the process. It tells you everything you need to know and do. At no point during the transition will you find yourself confused, thanks to this book. I think the authors have done a brilliant job of getting across a message that usually isn't that easy to approach. They have portrayed the message in a truly amazing way.

I would recommend this book to absolutely anybody that wants to undergo this transition. This book also helps for psychological studies or psychology assignments related to this subject. Brilliant work!

The Decision to Undergo SRS

 

Many people simply assume that the loss of the external male genitalia will result in a complete loss of sexuality. This very naive myth unnecessarily frightens many preop women, and it also furthers prejudice against postop TS women, who are often thought of by the general public as having "desexed themselves".

 

Certainly a typical male would suffer a catastrophic impact on body image and libido from the loss of his external genitalia. Furthermore, intensely TS women are not "regular guys". They do not suffer a negative impact on body image as a result of SRS, but instead find a greatly enhanced body image. The experiences of countless Hijra girls in India demonstrates that even primitive forms of SRS do not desex transsexual girls and in fact helps many of them. SRS has the opposite effect on intensely TS women as would the emasculation of a typical male. SRS usually releases and enhances the libidos of TS women, enabling them to frequently and fully "turn-on" and enjoy their physical sexuality and lovemaking, including achievement of orgasm during intercourse with a partner.

 

The myths and misunderstandings about the effects of SRS cause many preop TS women to remain in a state of indecision about having surgery. Although feeling an intense need to undergo SRS to achieve physical conformity with their gender identity, some preops may also feel extreme anxiety about whether or not they will still experience sexual arousal and orgasm after SRS.

 

This anxiety is enhanced by stories heard from many TS transition failures, including the cases of intense cross-dressers, drag queens and crossdressers who mistakenly underwent SRS for various sexual reasons and then found that their male libidos were greatly reduced and their male orgasmic capability eliminated. There have been so many misguided cases that the urban myths about SRS have escalated over the years, and there is now a lot of confusion about what to expect after SRS.

 

Post-op Female

 

On the other hand, many other transsexual girls learn to visualize from their preop sexual experiences that they'll probably still "turn-on" sexually and be orgasmic as women after SRS: Many preop women hide their genitals by inserting the testicles up into the abdomen, and then tightly tucking the male organ back through the crotch (with tight underwear or taping). In this configuration, the penis cannot usually get enough blood supply for full external penile erection. Even though the external part of the penis cannot erect when tucked tightly, the girl nevetheless experiences the familiar female "glow" and warmth throughout her interior genital region when she is aroused, for example, by a man's warm attentions. In addition, the corpora cavernosa shafts inside her body can become erect once the girl is sexually aroused, and that arousal feels really wonderful - even though the external part of the penis is flaccid. Sexual stimulation by rubbing and caressing the genital area and the breasts can then lead to orgasm for a girl who is sufficiently aroused.

 

From experiences like this, preop women can visualize that after undergoing SRS the remaining internal stumps of her corpora will still engorge and become erect, and that she can experience similar feelings of sexual arousal when she is postop. In addition, the postop woman can now also experience wonderful sensations from caressing her clitoris, which, in contrast to the previously hidden penis, can now be openly played with without her experiencing angst about her body-image.

There are many dimensions to postop women's sexuality, and the actual postop effects of SRS on arousal and orgasm vary greatly from case to case. Those who are male-gendered, and who have male sexual urges focused in the external genitalia, are likely to experience great loss over time. Those who are "in between somewhere" will likely experience a mixture of losses and gains. Those who are female gendered and who have strong female sexual urges are likely to benefit greatly, as a whole new life of sensuality, sexuality and lovemaking opens up to them. All of this is of course contingent upon the person having a normal-level of libido, having no "hang-ups" about being sensual and sexual, and also upon a successful surgical result.

Thus the decision for SRS must be taken with great internal soul searching and introspection, and with complete honesty with oneself about one's own gender identity, body image and likely psychic reactions to the body changes of SRS. This is especially true if sexual arousal and orgasm are very important in one's life. However, for those for whom SRS is the right thing to do, that surgery can release them fully from the physical gender trap they had been living in, and free them to experience their full humanity in sexual and lovemaking relationships.

What It's Like to Have Sex Post-op?

 

The results of SRS are made immediately obvious to the postop woman by one important effect: She now has to "sit down to pee". Peeing isn't as easy as before, and every time you pee you are reminded that you are now a girl, reminded in the same way that all the other girls are.

 

A lot of men have problems with getting erections simply because they have to constantly avoid having erections. In other words, they get much more practice in avoiding erections than they do in getting them! Women do not need to "censor" their arousals in that way. If they have no religious or other types of hang-ups about sex and lovemaking, they can easily practice and enjoy getting aroused as much as they like, and can develop very healthy libidos as a result. This advantage can help the postop woman get into her sexuality fairly quickly and help her learn a lot in just the first year or two postop.

 

Once she begins experiencing arousals and engaging in sexual activities, one major thing becomes immediately obvious. Orgasm feels really different as a woman. It may not be quite as easy to achieve and may take longer to achieve, but it can be a much more powerful sensation than any she ever experienced before as a boy.

 

Following SRS, the perfunctory feeling of male ejaculation during orgasm is gone forever. Instead, you can build up your sexual arousal to a much higher level without ejaculation bringing things to a halt. It may take more time to reach it, but you can now experience a more powerful orgasm - with the old male ejaculation feeling now replaced by an intense neural discharge and spasm throughout the entire genital area during orgasm. It feels kind of like you are being gently stimulated with electricity inside and throughout your entire genital region. The experience can vary a lot from orgasm to orgasm in the way in which the "neural halo and spasmodic colors" of the orgasm develop, spread, and feel. It seems almost as if most men so easily and quickly reach ejaculation that they never manage to get "high enough" sexually to trigger this more powerful form of orgasm.

 

In addition, there are real differences in "body feelings" during lovemaking between the male and female experience (although many of these feelings will be "female" in form for preop TS women too). Most males are usually stimulated visually by their partner's body-appearance. Once aroused, they usually feel a growing "tightness inside" and a desire to "grab and hold and thrust and penetrate". This desire comes on suddenly, and quickly becomes quite overpowering, with most of the sexual sensations coming only from within the penis itself. However, when the release of orgasm occurs, it is usually much more perfunctory than for a woman, being accompanied by a few spurts of semen and a few grunts and that's it. The ejaculation is then followed by quite a sudden letdown and loss of any interest in sexual activity.

 

The sexual experience for the postop woman is much more "internal" within and throughout her whole body than for a male. The arousal may start in her genitals, but then can spread all through her lower body, especially inside the muscles, and her skin all over her body becomes more sensitized to caressing and touching. Instead of sexual arousal being just in the genitals as in a male, the estrogen seems to also enable a powerful "heat" to fill the woman's whole body once she is aroused - and especially once she is being penetrated. Having this heat come over her in the absence of a partner, and without any satisfaction, can make her feel like "climbing the walls" or "thrashing around in her bed".

 

Since her whole body becomes much more sensitive to touch as she get fully aroused, she is not stimulated so much by her partner's appearance as by the way he (or she) touches her and manipulates her body and the way his (or her) voice sounds. She doesn't feel the hard focused drive to quickly achieve orgasm as do males, but instead feels a desire to let go and thrash around and be "handled" and gradually heighten her erotic feelings. It isn't what she is seeing that counts as much as what she is feeling and hearing and how her body is being manipulated by her partner, as she yields to the wonders of sexual heat and lovemaking. And usually she'll like to take some time to do this and enjoy this, instead of just "rushing for ejaculation" like most guys do.

 

Finally, she will get up on a "plateau" and realize that an orgasm is going to come. This is a truly wonderful feeling. At some point, the orgasm starts and spreads throughout her genital area, with the genital nerves becoming tremendously sensitized as it spreads. The sensation of the orgasm will vary a lot from orgasm to orgasm (more variably than in the male). Sometimes it will be weak, but sometimes it can be amazingly intense, and the feeling varies a lot in form and "color" from orgasm to orgasm.

 

Just like natal women, trans women often experience a strong urge to "vocalize" just before and during orgasm - moaning, squealing, screaming and making other loud noises while they come. The sound and internal body sensation of these vocalizations can greatly heighten the intensity of the orgasmic experience for many women. Postop women shouldn't be afraid to let out loud moans or screams when they come. It is perfectly natural, and can help transform ordinary orgasms into ecstatic ones. In contrast, very few men vocalize when they ejaculate, other than making a few grunts. Perhaps the difference is hormonal, with testosterone blocking these emotional vocalizations, just as it blocks emotions such as "crying" in males.

 

After climax the trans woman feels a sudden relaxing and calming effect that is somewhat similar to what it is like for boys. But unlike when she was a boy, she may often feel aroused and sexy again rather soon after having sex, often getting firm internal erections again soon after her orgasms. Even though it may be difficult for her to achieve orgasm again until some time has passed (a few hours to a day or so), she may feel a desire for sex again right away anyways. These re-arousals are a really wonderful feeling, and can enable sweet sessions of touching and snuggling with a loving partner after intercourse.