Transwomen and Dating

From: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a47721/men-speak-out-about-being-attracted-to-transgender-women/

Mark says that a lot of men who hide their attraction to transgender women are "trying to protect themselves from this gay label and being judged by society," but tells them they're not gay, and that "finding transgender people attractive is the most natural thing in the world. They are beautiful."

Mark's current partner, a transgender woman named Lorraina, is also interviewed talking about how she'd told her mother at a young age that she wanted to be a girl and her family was the "holy grail" in terms of how supportive they were.  

Mark and Lorraina both seem like incredibly awesome people, which is not so much the case with Morris, 41, who says that having sex with transgender women is "more easy," with his theory being that "not everybody likes it, to go with transgender" and that fact makes them easier to sleep with. He also calls transgender women Ferraris, thereby cementing himself as the resident frat bro. 

From: http://www.bilerico.com/2014/12/what_its_really_like_dating_as_a_transgender_woman.php#MiLVTijjyYZq81rk.99

"During the first year of my transition I did discover that I have a growing attraction to men, something I never had before. I had by then been in a wonderful 11-year relationship with a woman who is still my partner today.

"Being newly minted with the label of pansexual and beginning to identify as polyamorous (legitimizing in a way years of consensual and healthy non-monogamy), I entered the dating pool primarily through online dating. - C, a 34-year-old pansexual transgender woman in the Los Angeles area.

"I don't love her because she's trans, or despite the fact that she's trans. It's not something I ignore or something that I focus on; it's a part of her. But she is trans. I've learned a lot just by being with her.

"I've learned to be grateful for things I'd previously taken for granted: My safety walking down the street, the fact that I can be reasonably confident of finding a job if I look for one, my assumption that others see me as I see myself with no need for me to constantly evaluate my behavior and others' reactions to it." - D, a 42-year-old cisgender partner of a transgender woman.

"I find a lot of men fetishize trans women in a way that they don't other women. I often hear statements that no man would ever say to a ciswoman. For example: "I've always been curious about sex with a transsexual. Can you tell me what your penis is like?"" - E, a 40-year-old queer transgender woman in NYC.

"After reassignment surgery, it seems that the chaser pool dried up and I haven't had much luck with dating. The one time where I almost had a date post-surgery, after disclosing to him he of course had an existential crisis and cancelled." - J, a 30-year-old straight transgender woman in East Lansing, Michigan.

From: https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/the-straight-men-who-have-sex-with-trans-women

Last year, after decades of living a double life, Matt was finally ready for a partner. He became serious about finding the right trans woman to spend his life with. But where to look? There's been an active market for trans personal ads on Craigslist for years. Clicking into the m4t category of Misc. Romance, you'll find reams of posts by trans amorous men. There is a weighty symbolism to Craigslist's subcategories: Casual Encounters is, as one would expect, the most popular. If you're cruising there, all bets are off. As the guys see it, social graces are checked at the door. Then, over in Misc. Romance, again and again, you'll find posts by guys professing their exhaustion with Casual Encounters. They've had enough; they want more. There is a tenderness to the forum—the same users post diligently week after week in pursuit of their transgender soul mate, and stock photos of roses often accompany their ads.

Observations About Transvestites

INTRODUCTION

This primer is about the sex-lives of transvestites. 

A transvestite may be characterized as being sexually schizophrenic, i.e., has two views about his sexual drive and identity. His libido houses an aggressive male attitude about sex, but also a passive female attitude. 

A transvestite is continuously conflicted about his sexual feelings. Often a transvestite will manifest heterosexual feelings when he is with a woman, and completely opposite passive feelings when he is with a man. 

Stage 1 - FANTASY

It is commonly believed that men fantasize more than women. Occasionally people will extend their fantasies to their real lives. The reality can work out okay or can ruin lives. For transvestites, their fantasies are about being women; living their lived as females. 

2 - COMPULSION

Sometimes a transvestite will consider himself ready to go out in public before he has learned how to pass. It is a compulsion - the need for acceptance of him for what he is. The lines are blurred and he may become upset when people do not accept him as readily as he thinks they should.

He begins by going out for walks at night. Then it will gravitate to going for drives. When he arrives home safe and sound, he feels a great sense of elation at having faced the World in his female persona. This elation often leads to masturbation.

3 - MASTURBATION

Most transvestites attempt to transform themselves into their perception of an attractive sexy woman. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. Either way, they are usually content with how they look in the mirror.

Sexual relief usually comes in the form of masturbation while admiring themselves in the mirror. While masturbating, they fantasize about having been born a real woman and the fun they could have by being made love to by men. 

In many cases, masturbation is the extent of their sexual activity. They either wish it won't go further, or they don't know how. It is a lonely existence. Many transvestites book into hotel rooms so that they can put on their outfits and achieve climax through masturbation.

4 - ORAL SEX

Some transvestites will muster the courage to go out in public. Usually this will be a gay pub, where he feels he will be accepted. He will then make friends with gays and bisexuals, and sooner or later he will end up alone with a man. 

When he is with a man, some form of sex will occur. Initially, the transvestite will not want to be the recipient of anal sex - no matter how much he has fantasized about it. He will want his first sexual experience in his female persona to be restricted to oral sex. The person he is with will usually be patient, and not insist on fucking him. The two will then engage in mutual fondling which after a while will result in the transvestite sucking the man's cock.

First attempts at oral sex will usually continue for some time. When the man is ready to climax, he will either pull out and cum on his face, or he will ejaculate in transvestite's mouth. If it is the first cock he has sucked, the transvestite will find the taste of semen hard to swallow, and will spit it out. After a while, he will develop a taste for it. 

The act of sucking a man's cock appeals to the passive, submissive nature of a transvestite. Normally, he will kneel at the man's feet and allow the man to place his cock in his mouth. Once a transvestite has sucked his first cock, he won't be able to get enough. He will do everything he can to be able to perform oral sex on men as often as possible. For some transvestites this will be enough; they won't want to take sexual matters any further. It will be sufficient to satisfy their need for role-fulfillment.

5 - PENETRATIVE SEX

Many transvestites do not stop at oral sex. They want to experience, and be the recipient of, penetrative sex. It is common for transvestites to give this a great deal of thought. The question of health arises as well as the matter of pain that anal sex causes. Most transvestites will have experimented on themselves and they will be aware of the painfulness of anal penetration. In the end, the need to experience submissive sex will triumph.

Sometimes they will try-out anal sex with another transvestite, or will with a man. After the first few experiences, they will want to do with ordinary men. There are no shortage of men who want to fuck transvestites, and so before long they will find themselves able to have penetrative sex with a number of men. To many transvestites, this is role-fulfillment. For some, it is not enough. They will choose to go the whole route - seeking gender reassignment surgery.

6 - BEYOND PENETRATIVE SEX

In some cases, oral and penetrative sex are not enough. It will not fully satisfy their submissiveness and need to be dominated by men. These will actively seek-out men for whom rough-sex is their preference. Many men like to have sex with transvestites because they can do anything to them - things that real women wouldn't allow. This includes whipping and using them as toilets. Men like this get off on this sort of thing.

Transvestite prostitutes are rarely surprised at anger many men feel. Many men are unhappy in their marriages. Although most men just want oral sex or a fuck, some want to beat the transvestite until they achieved an erection, and then fuck them as forcibly as they can.

CONCLUSION

As may be seen from above, a transvestite's sex-life is more than a little complicated. It is further complicated by the indisputable fact that most transvestites - unless they are homosexual - don't like the physical sexual side of their lives. It does nothing for them physically - many don't achieve erections when they are being used by men for sex. It does a mental thing - it fulfills their perception of their passive female side. It is simply role-fulfillment.

Some differences between male vs post-op female transsexuals' genital experiences, arousals and orgasms

The results of SRS are made immediately obvious to the post-op woman by one important effect: She now has to "sit down to pee". Peeing isn't as easy as before, and every time you pee you are reminded that you are now a girl, reminded in the same way that all the other girls are.

On the other hand, there is a really great advantage to having female genitals that soon becomes obvious too: Your sexual arousal is no longer "visible to others". Just as for any other woman, the post-op woman does not have to constantly suppress her arousal like men do. She can let herself get aroused any time she wants to, and can stay aroused for long periods of time without others "seeing anything", just as many other women do (this is another reason so many women smile a lot!).

It's great to be able to engage in fantasies and visualizations and get aroused at any time you want to. This freedom can help a woman create and firmly establish a healthy libido. She can hook-up her brain with her genitals without much "censorship" going on. Even though her libido is not as heavily stimulated by the large doses of testosterone that men have, neither does she have to tame and control her libido like men do theirs. Therefore, on balance, a woman can generally feel "sexy" much more of the time than a man can.

Lynn speculates that a lot of men have problems with getting erections simply because they have to constantly avoid having erections. In other words, they get much more practice in avoiding erections than they do in getting them! Women do not need to "censor" their arousal in that way. If they have no religious or other types of hang-ups about sex and lovemaking, they can easily practice and enjoy getting aroused as much as they like, and can develop very healthy libidos as a result. This advantage can help the post-op woman get into her sexuality fairly quickly and help her learn a lot in just the first year or two post-op.

Once she begins experiencing arousal and engaging in sexual activities, one major thing becomes immediately obvious. Orgasm feels really different as a woman. It may not be quite as easy to achieve and may take longer to achieve, but it can be a much more powerful sensation than any she ever experienced before as a boy.

Following SRS, the perfunctory feeling of male ejaculation during orgasm is gone forever. Instead, you can build up your sexual arousal to a much higher level without ejaculation bringing things to a halt. It may take more time to reach it, but you can now experience a more powerful orgasm - with the old male ejaculation feeling now replaced by an intense neural discharge and spasm throughout the entire genital area during orgasm. It feels kind of like you are being gently stimulated with electricity inside and throughout your entire genital region. The experience can vary a lot from orgasm to orgasm in the way in which the "neural halo and spasmodic colors" of the orgasm develop, spread, and feel. It seems almost as if most men so easily and quickly reach ejaculation that they never manage to get "high enough" sexually to trigger this more powerful form of orgasm.

In addition, there are real differences in "body feelings" during lovemaking between the male and female experience (although many of these feelings will be "female" in form for pre-op TS women too). Most males are usually stimulated visually by their partner's body-appearance. Once aroused, they usually feel a growing "tightness inside" and a desire to "grab and hold and thrust and penetrate". This desire comes on suddenly, and quickly becomes quite overpowering, with most of the sexual sensations coming only from within the penis itself. However, when the release of orgasm occurs, it is usually much more perfunctory than for a woman, being accompanied by a few spurts of semen and a few grunts and that's it. The ejaculation is then followed by quite a sudden letdown and loss of any interest in sexual activity.

The sexual experience for the post-op woman is much more "internal" within and throughout her whole body than for a male. The arousal may start in her genitals, but then can spread all through her lower body, especially inside the muscles, and her skin all over her body becomes more sensitized to caressing and touching. Instead of sexual arousal being just in the genitals as in a male, the estrogen seems to also enable a powerful "heat" to fill the woman's whole body once she is aroused - and especially once she is being penetrated. Having this heat come over her in the absence of a partner, and without any satisfaction, can make her feel like "climbing the walls" or "thrashing around in her bed".

Since her whole body becomes much more sensitive to touch as she get fully aroused, she is not stimulated so much by her partner's appearance as by the way he (or she) touches her and manipulates her body and the way his (or her) voice sounds. She doesn't feel the hard focused drive to quickly achieve orgasm as do males, but instead feels a desire to let go and thrash around and be "handled" and gradually heighten her erotic feelings. It isn't what she is seeing that counts as much as what she is feeling and hearing and how her body is being manipulated by her partner, as she yields to the wonders of sexual heat and lovemaking. And usually she'll like to take some time to do this and enjoy this, instead of just "rushing for ejaculation" like most guys do.

Finally, she will get up on a "plateau" and realize that an orgasm is going to come. This is a truly wonderful feeling. At some point, the orgasm starts and spreads throughout her genital area, with the genital nerves becoming tremendously sensitized as it spreads. The sensation of the orgasm will vary a lot from orgasm to orgasm (more variably than in the male). Sometimes it will be weak, but sometimes it can be amazingly intense, and the feeling varies a lot in form and "color" from orgasm to orgasm.

Before and After

 Just like natal women, trans women often experience a strong urge to "vocalize" just before and during orgasm - moaning, squealing, screaming and making other loud noises while they come. The sound and internal body sensation of these vocalizations can greatly heighten the intensity of the orgasmic experience for many women. Postop women shouldn't be afraid to let out loud moans or screams when they come. It is perfectly natural, and can help transform ordinary orgasms into ecstatic ones. In contrast, very few men vocalize when they ejaculate, other than making a few grunts. Perhaps the difference is hormonal, with testosterone blocking these emotional vocalizations, just as it blocks emotions such as "crying" in males.

After climax the trans woman feels a sudden relaxing and calming effect that is somewhat similar to what it is like for boys. But unlike when she was a boy, she may often feel aroused and sexy again rather soon after having sex, often getting firm internal erections again soon after her orgasms. Even though it may be difficult for her to achieve orgasm again until some time has passed (a few hours to a day or so), she may feel a desire for sex again right away anyways. This re-arousal is a really wonderful feeling, and can enable sweet sessions of touching and snuggling with a loving partner after intercourse.

I Turned My Son Into My Daughter

Posted Jan 31, 2016 by anonymous | 1862 views | 31 comments

From: http://www.rawconfessions.com/confession/show/i-turned-my-son-into-a-daughter-

I was married and wanted to have a baby. My husband and I had a difficult time conceiving and I took fertility drugs. It was a miracle. Soon I was pregnant and all was going well. A sonogram revealed I was carrying twins. Later, I discovered one was girl and the other a boy. The last few months of the pregnancy were very difficult for me. I was confined to bed rest for eight weeks before I delivered. The delivery was equally. The boy came first and minutes later the girl. My girl was born with health problems and despite the very best efforts of our doctors we lost her at two and a half months,

I went into a deep depression. I so wanted a little girl, like most mothers, to dress pretty, style her hair and later teach her how to wear makeup and all the things a girl needs to know. The depression worsened. I never returned to work. We struggled with money and had a sexless relationship until my husband left me. At this time. I lost my mind and became a true mental case. I decided I would have the daughter I wanted. I returned to work to support my family.  

I started dressing my son in girl's clothing and calling him by the name we picked for our daughter. My mother would keep him during the day and as soon as I picked him up, I changed his clothes back to being my daughter. About a year later, I got a wonderful opportunity to move to another state and work from my home giving me time to be with my daughter. I got licensed as a home school teacher so I could keep her to myself, and away from the public schools. When she was about eight, I began slipping estrogen and progesterone into her food to feminize her.

At puberty, she had beautiful smooth skin, a pretty feminine face, long brown hair and a slim feminine body. But she knew something was different. I sat with her and cried and told her the whole sad twisted story. She cried too not totally understanding what I had put her through. But she accepted it as I explained I couldn't reverse what I had done to her.

Now she is 15 and is a beautiful young girl. She has grown perfect breasts, a shapely rear and hips and is now on real hormone therapy. I make a good living and have been saving for her gender reassignment surgery when she become old enough.

Gender Role Reversal

Do you live and dress as a women full time or most of the time? You imply that a woman should just forceably make a man feminized? A smart one manipulates him so he thinks he has a choice but she is in control. if you give him some leeway, but dominate him, it is much easier.

My husband is completely feminized. He is now a woman full-time at my request. He has completely feminized our three sons and, while I was cautious about this, I let him do it with some help from me because it was what I really wanted. But it was his idea. 

I masterminded the entire plan. He is my best friend and lover but still expects me to be in control, support the family and be the decision maker. My new friend that I met a few months ago has a husband similar to mine, except he feminized himself.

At her suggestion, she got him to dress up once in a while for fun and eventually he just liked it so much, he completely feminized himself with hormones. He is very much a woman, but like my husband, still has some use of his male member. They are a loving couple and they get along great. He took it upon himself to feminize their two sons. Without her knowledge, he began giving the boys testosterone suppressing medication when they were 8 and 9. After a couple of years, he started them on light doses of hormones and the male characteristics have almost been completely suppressed.

She did not figure it out until, at early puberty, their bodies were becoming very girlish. Today they are two very nice looking young girls now at 16 and 17.

They have attended school as girls for the last 4 or 5 years and are completely accepted a such. They have breasts, a narrow waist and round hips. Their parents told the school administrators that they were both born with both male and female organs (very rare) and the school just accepted it. They have been exempt from most PhysEd and other contact situations.

They still have male members but they never really developed beyond that of about a 7 year old boy. Their testicles are almost non-existent and, of course, they are sterile because of the hormones. The husband has been on hormones for years. He was a chubby man before and the hormones alone gave him a very feminine body. Initially, he added a lot of weight, mostly on his thighs, chest and stomach. He was a very nice looking size 16, but after a few more years he is now a size 20 because a lot of extra weight went to his stomach. 

Today he looks great from the chest up but really looks like a pregnant woman. He has very soft features, beautiful silky looking hair. He looks like a very attractive big woman. He has a 42DD chest and regularly wears very attractive tops that emphasize his cleavage. His likes his breasts.

He seems happy and is a truly remarkable person. My own husband could use some more on top but he definitely looks like a knockout with his narrow waist and round bottom. He fits perfectly into most size 10 dresses. His transition from a pantie-wearing man when I met him to a beautiful blonde knockout is my crowning accomplishment. Plus my 3 sissy boys are fantastic. We are a very loving family.