"Suck cock until you can’t think."

On the Adoration of the Lingam, by Kalkinath

"He who desires perfection of the soul must worship the lingam."

Linga Purana

"Suck cock until you can’t think."

Daniel Suders, The Fourteen Steps

The Lingam of Shiva

The term Lingam, in Sanskrit, means ‘sign’. Shiva, as the Absolute - that which is unmanifest, can only be perceived by the means of his creation - the source of life from which the world is issued. This is the principle upon which the veneration of the phallus is based in Shaivite mysticism.

"Shiva is without sign, without colour, without taste, without odour, beyond the reach of words or touch, without qualities, immutable and immovable."

"The distinctive sign by which one can recognise the nature of something is therefore called lingam."

Linga Purana

A central concept in Tantra is that of divine immanence – that one can experience the divine through the worship of god or goddess in a living form. This commonly appears in the forms of tantric puja (ritual) where a goddess is worshipped in the form of a living woman. Jeffrey J. Kripal notes the teachings of Vaishnavacharan, a nineteenth-century tantric contemporary of Ramakrishna, whose Kartabhaja sect of tantrics practised the method of "delighting in God in the forms of man." That is to say, Vaishnavacharan’s followers sought to experience divine ecstasy by making a living man the subject of their adoration. Kripal infers that this would have included sex-play.

Blowjob Bhakti

One of the central homo-erotic interludes in Hindu myth is Agni’s swallowing of the semen of Shiva, which led to a chain of events culminating in the birth of the god Skanda. Skanda is considered by some writers to be the object of devotion by a homo-erotic cult in India and elsewhere.

"Then from his linga Shiva released his perfect seed which had the fragrant perfume of jasmine or the blue lotus. Agni took it into his hands and drank it, rejoicing, thinking, ‘Elixir!’ and then Shiva vanished." - Saura Purana, quoted in Conner, Sparks & Sparks, p44.

Semen is the purest form of sacrificial elixir – the Soma offering given to the fire of desire. The Vedic texts contain many references to semen as a form of food. On an esoteric level, the ingestion of semen is a form of eucharist whereby the deity resides in the semen and enters the body of the practitioner. The magical properties of ingesting semen appears in a wide variety of cultural contexts.

Sucking cock is an act of worship. Kneeling before a man is an adoration, or an abasement. Accepting the semen of a stranger or lover is immensely powerful. There’s a power in yielding, in abandoning oneself, and a power in one’s ability, through passion and skill, to bring about the pleasure of another.

In the Kama Sutra, fellatio is referred to as auparishtaka – ‘superior coition’, and associates its practice with hijras or male prostitutes.

Jivantalingapuja – Worship of the Living Lingam

This is an outline, using tantric principles, for a sexual puja employing fellatio. 

Salutation to Ganesha

A salutation to Ganesha, whom Shiva decreed should be worshipped prior to the beginning of any auspicious act, is made. The penis, (particularly if flaccid), may be adored as Ganesha’s trunk.

Bathing the Phallus

Bathing the phallus is a ritual act of purification, preparing it to become the vehicle of the indwelling deity. This may be done as a ritual oblation or by tongue-bathing.

Nyasa

Nyasa (placing) is the ritual act of identifying the body (or part, in this case) with the indwelling deity. Again this may be done ritually, or silently, through massage and stroking.

Om, I salute Shiva in the balls

Na, I salute Shiva in the root

Ma, I salute Shiva in the shaft

Shi, I salute Shiva in the crown

Va, I salute Shiva in the tip

Ya, I salute Shiva in the eye

Invoking the Deity

Invoking the chosen deity (i.e. Shiva) into the vessel is traditionally performed by the practitioner identifying with the deity through internal meditation and then externalising the indwelling deity into the vessel via the breath. Here, it may be appropriate to identify oneself with Agni (see above) before simultaneously breathing onto and stroking the penis so that it becomes a vessel for divinity.

Adoring the Lingam

Having installed the deity into the penis, it may now be adored. One may choose to use the delightful prose of the tantras or something more contemporary, depending on circumstances. Some partners might be somewhat alarmed to hear their cock described as "shining with the light of ten thousand suns."

Superior Coition

The Kama Sutra describes the ‘eight ways’ of performing fellatio:

Casual

Clasping the penis with one hand, bringing the lips close, rounding them over the mast, whilst pressing, releasing and shaking.

Nibbling the sides

Covering the end of the penis with one hand, pressing the lips to the sides and nibbling slightly at the same time.

External Pinching

Bringing his lips close to the penis, he presses the mast and kisses it whilst sucking. When the sex has been stimulated by being nibbled along the sides, he himself, excited at the first contact with his lips, lets the end of the penis penetrate into his mouth, pressing it and sucking and, having bared it, he releases it.

Internal Pinching

On request, he then lets the penis penetrate further, and, pressing it between his lips, causes an ejaculation.

The Kiss

Encircling the penis with his hand instead of his lips, he kisses it. Let the tip of the tongue wander and titillate the meatus opening, cleaning it carefully. This is called polishing.

Browsing

Having done this, with the tip of the tongue, licking the mast all over and titillating the opening, is known as browsing.

Sucking the Mango

Having bared the mast, pressing the organ hard, passionately, whilst half inside, and sucking whilst pressing, is known as sucking the mango.

Devouring

Having understood the man’s desire and in order to satisfy his wish to come, he makes him ejaculate by the pressure of his tongue until the sperm gushes out.

Consuming the Soma

Assuming one wishes to do this, the divine essence may be held in the mouth whilst one meditates on the force of Shiva, before being swallowed or shared. Alternatively, a spunk-filled condom can be retained for later burial or use in anointing. Also, as Katon Shual has pointed out, dried semen can be burnt, and the ashes imbided safely.

Sources

Cassell’s Encyclopedia of Queer Myth, Symbol and Spirit, Conner, Sparks & Sparks, Cassell, 1997

The Complete Kama Sutra, Alain Daniélou, Park Street Press, 1994

The Myths and Gods of India, Alain Daniélou, Inner Traditions, 1991

The Phallus: Sacred Symbol of Male Creative Power, Alain Daniélou, Inner traditions, 1995

Rebels & Devils: The Psychology of Liberation, Christopher S. Hyatt (ed), New Falcon Publications, 1996

Kali’s Child: The Mystical and the Erotic in the Life and Teachings of Ramakrishna, Jeffrey J. Kripal, University of

Are You a Sissy?

From: www.briannaaustin.com

Growing up in Brooklyn, New York during the 1960s, the term “sissy” had a much different meaning than it does today.

Where do you fall on that spectrum?

When I was a kid, as a closet cross-dresser, I was all too familiar with the term, and avoided association with it at all costs.  A sissy was often the opposite of a Tom Boy. Back then a sissy was any boy who acted effeminate; any boy who wore clothes deemed girlish in style or color; any boy who did things considered girly; any boy who moved in anyway less than “macho” – God forbid you allowed others to see your wrist hanging limp!

Wikipedia describes a sissy as (derived from sister; also sissy baby, sissy boy, etc.) is a pejorative term for a boy or man who violates or does not meet the traditional male gender role. Generally, sissy implies a lack of courage and stoicism, which are thought important to the male role. A man might also be considered a sissy for being interested in traditionally feminine hobbies or employment (e.g., being fond of fashion, going to meditation sessions, or cooking), for displaying effeminate behavior (e.g., saying "mua mua" before hanging up the phone or using creams), for being un-athletic, or for being homosexual.

This left a lot of sissy quicksand for one to fall into; wear pink, yellow or powder blue anything – shirt, socks, shorts, jacket – and you might as well just adopt a girl’s name right there on the spot and be content to watch the boys play from then on without you -- because you’d never again be allowed to join in boy games.  Get caught by friends playing girl games – like house, fashion show or tea for two -- with sisters or girlfriends or girl cousins --, and you’d be exiled to girls land forever.  And even getting caught doing domestic things – cooking or cleaning, for example --, though you might get a pass because everyone knows that “mom made you do it!”, you’d still be ribbed relentlessly for quite a while.

Oddly the actual closet sissies rarely, if ever, got called on anything because they were always on guard: they never did or said anything that would reveal their private sissy-ness to anyone.

The closest I ever came was when I performed in an Irish Jig dance troupe. After one particular performance, some kid in the audience called me a sissy.  It was a good thing that I concurrently was taking martial arts, and when we scuffled and I flipped him, my “tough guy” image was secured.

While it was an unwritten obligation for any “man” boy to out a sissy when he saw one, he’d often do so with his sole motivation simply to show that he himself wasn’t a sissy.

As boys growing up in the 1960s, we had macho standards to uphold.  They were set decades before our own by the screen actor rebels like James Dean or Marlon Brando, Paul Newman, or even clean-cut but dashing manly-men like Kirk Douglas, Gregory Peck or Cary Grant. In the 1960s Steve McQueen ushered in a new standard: he was the King of Cool.  We had lots of macho roles to emulate.

For many decades the words sissy and homosexual were synonymous.  Any cross-dresser would certainly be deemed a sissy; what “man” would wear women’s clothing and make up?

But things have changed through the decades, both in meaning and vernacular.   Gender has gotten more fluid, especially in clothing styles and colors, the acceptance of men engaging in cooking classes, and generally becoming more domesticated.

There is now an entire sub-culture in the transgender community where men are sissified, which is like feminized, but with more frilly and submissive overtones, and often tied to B&D (bondage and domination) activities.

While some transgender gurlz strive to become more feminine, most envision themselves either as women [trapped in a man’s body), “Two Spirited” – possessing both feminine and masculine components that comprise their gender identity, or simply guys that like to be feminine and pretty occasionally – and what’s wrong with that?

The sissy, however, doesn’t see himself as a women; in fact he is firmly rooted in the reality that he is not a woman, nor can he every truly become one, but no longer a man either. In many instances the sissy sees women as the superior species, and is happy to simply elevate themselves to their highest possible feminine representation of female.

To that end, the sissy acts and dresses as frilly and feminine as possible, but never in a mainstream way. They love ruffles, satin, and lace in yellow, white and pink, anything that accentuates femininity – usually garters & stockings, high heels, and costumes.  But it can also include baby girl and little girl attire and actions as well.

Their goal is not to assimilate; thus the frills are both an adoration of feminism, and a reminder that they’re merely emulating that which they can never actually be.

It is then no surprise that most sissies are usually submissive in nature, a soft demeanor that earns to serve.  Often when you come upon social profiles of sissies, they are seeking a “strong master or mistress” to train them. This is yet another way of saying, “bring out the girl in me and suppress the male … PLEASE!”

Is being a sissy then really about being and looking feminine, or is it really – at the root – about power, the lack of, and/or exchange of it?

Being a sissy these days isn’t about dressing up somewhere and getting a little sexual eroticism; it’s a commitment to becoming something not female or male, but highly feminine, regardless of the age play.  No one in the broader transgender community really understands sissies, just like the mainstream – or the gay community for that matter -- doesn’t really get transgender.

So sissies are left to their own devices, or God-willing a master or mistress that can guide, mold and nurture them.  Being a sad sissy is pointless, because according to Quentin Crisp, “their biscuit-baking mothers would tell them that if they’re looking for sympathy, that they’ll find it in the thesaurus between shit and syphilis … and after Sissy.”

Until next time sissies, be happy, be save, and always think pretty!

Becoming a Woman

From: http://www.briannaaustin.com/

Do you dream of life as a woman 24/7?  Is it reality or fantasy that drives you?

Many of us have fantasized about becoming a woman; waking everyday with silky smooth legs and curvaceous bodies. Gliding in high heels, wearing makeup, garter-belts, and stockings and blending in.  Enjoying our feminine self without any hecklers or unwanted remarks. For some this is more than fantasy, it is a life long objective just within reach.

There are so many t-sisters out there searching for happiness convinced that they would find it in womanhood. For a very few, some who are truly transsexuals – woman trapped in a man’s body -- they do find happiness. For too many others it was but an empty illusion. Cross dressers often experience such joy in the female role that some seek that joy all the time. But one must recognize the illusion they experience. When one dresses up and steps out in our high heels (or stays in), the joy is in the magic of that moment.  But it is just that – a moment; a fleeting utopian second. Can the experience really be sustained? 

First off, many CDs don't dress because they're displaced women in a man’s body.  Dressing provides an escape from something; whether it is an over bearing mother, father or wife, a release of the pressures of one's job, an ability to express a part of one’s self more comfortably through a female persona, sexual gratification or any of dozens of other descriptions. What am I saying? I am saying that it is great in a limited space of time, but to do it everyday may not be the dream one imagines. 

When many men dress they leave the problems of life with their male identity and escape into the wonderful carefree life of womanhood, and it can be delicious. It's delicious however because they don't have any of the problems of LIVING as a woman.  When you seek to be a woman all the time however, you re-enter back into the real world. Your previous problems, from which you were trying to escape, are no longer escapable as a full-time woman.

Moreover, the problems are still there except you now have to deal with them as a woman, which is not an easy task. I have had so many men say to me “I am so relaxed as a woman.” Perhaps they are relaxed because they have escaped the day to day grind and pressure of life. Many CD’s when they are in their “I have to dress” frame of mind, can’t think of anything else. They will put off important issues until they are done in an hour – a day or a week later, knowing that they will return to the issues at hand when they are fulfilled. Many times they return feeling renewed and refreshed. But if you were living as a woman you could not put these things off; they would be part of your life and have to be dealt with timely.    


Not only does transition mean dealing with life “as” a woman; it means experiencing life “not” as a man. Many of the benefits of being a man will disappear, and there are many benefits in this society to being a man I assure you. I am not trying to de-rail anyone's desires of pursuing their dream of transition or full time dressing. I'm infusing some hard reality to consider before leaping: make sure you've thought it through, weighed the realities against the fantasies, and are driven by the core of who you are and not by the person you like to be, sometimes.  

Moreover, a woman has been practicing her assimilation into society all her life – from childhood through the teenage years right into adulthood. She has been prepared to live in society as a woman, learning about her strengths and weaknesses, the advantages and setbacks. You have not. A man who was used to certain access, attention and respect may be very frustrated by the new lack of it. Many trans-girls say to me “I get so much attention as a girl, more than I ever did as a man.” Honey that is sideshow attention, you are the spectacle, the organ grinder monkey. The monkey gets lots of attention – what does that really mean? Would you get more attention and respect at work, in applying for a loan, making a business deal, or is it only at the tranny bar? Give that some real honest thought.

Choosing to transition is not about convenience either.  Because it may be a hard road doesn't make it the wrong road.  It's a decision however that does require taking all things into account.  

In 1985 I had a dear friend known as International Chrysis (see photo at left). She was tall, feminine and beautiful -- ala Rita Hayworth. She was a bombshell who was very comfortable in her gay sexual orientation, unlike many cross dressers who have internal struggles over whether they're gay, BI or heterosexual. She had started hormones at the age of 16 and in her 30s -- with an hourglass figure and 38-C breasts -- at times would question her decision.

I spent many nights with her as she cried saying “what have I done, I am a monster.” When I asked what she meant she said, “I should have just been a gay man.” I was stunned. How could this be? She was beautiful, feminine and had no question about her sexuality.  She was a natural candidate to be TS, yet still had internal conflicts. 

People assume that everybody fits into a clear mold based on certain factors, I certainly did. Chrysis struggled with life as a woman spending most of her time androgynous in her hairstyle and clothing. Only during a night out, or doing a show did portray the illusion of a woman, yet always referred to her makeup and wig as drag. “Let me get out of this drag” she would say at the end of the night.

It was only a year or so before her death that she let her hair grow and began to accept and portray the role of a woman. She even landed a speaking part in the movie Q & A with Nick Nolte shortly before her untimely death, and was thesubject of the documentary Split.  (She is greatly missed!)

A current friend is on a fast track to transition; the hormones are flowing, breasts are growing, skin softening and surgery is being planned. When she is complete - does that make her a woman? She still reacts like a man, has the temperament of a man, thinks like a man and has the libido of a man. So with the body of a woman what is she? On the contrary, my very dear friend Teryl-Lynn Fox (the former Miss Gay Louisiana and countless other titles), never even dressed up the first time until she was in her late teens, and within a few years started living full-time.  She said it best: “Womanhood is something you have to grow into, it is not something you just become. It is a journey that evolves – changing continually.” 

Many of my other friends struggle for a sense of understanding. Is my current friend a gay man looking for validation? Does she think in her mind that to be with a man would be O.K. if she were a woman? Sexuality plays a huge underlying role in the lives of many cross dressers. Another friend once told me “I am not gay, I am only with men when I am dressed up.” “Does the dress make a difference” I asked?  To her it apparently does. This is not to portray that all cross dressers are confused about their sexual orientation, because there are many that are very comfortable in their heterosexual -- or homosexual -- orientation. But if they were heterosexual then that would make them lesbians wouldn’t it? On second thought,  that is another article all together. 

“Your body is the taxi that carries YOU around” I once wrote.  Who you are is what this article is all about, inside you, your heart, your spirit and your soul. Don’t rush off in hope that transition will make your life better; find out who you are first. When you get in touch with that, then, and only then are you ready to deal with a life-altering decision.  

If you have the spirit of a woman and really want to bring your body in line with “you”, which you believe in your very bones should have been a woman, then transition makes sense, but absolutely anything less is a tempting but empty fantasy.

As always, be happy, be safe, and think pretty.

Sex as a Transwoman

From: www.thestranger.com

Speed dating doesn't usually appeal to me. But when I saw a speed-dating event specifically for queer and trans people, I couldn't resist. I was traveling, and my expectations weren't very high, but there was one person I hit it off with. She was hanging out with trans friends, and all signs said she was perfectly safe. Still, I must admit, there was a tinge of hesitation on my part. You'd be surprised how many people are fine with having trans friends but freak out at the prospect of a trans lover. After the event ended, I worked up the courage to make a move. Before I knew it, we were making out in a hotel room.

For trans people, sex can be an anxiety-laden issue. Sexuality has been used as the basis for a lot of discrimination against trans people, who are treated as sexual objects, and the medical system has a long history of putting trans people through twisted expectations around sexuality.

For example, the first time I went to a therapist, out of the blue he asked me if I ever masturbated while wearing my mother's clothing. I was taken aback by his incestuous suggestion and only later realized it was apparently a diagnostic test. (Supposedly, if you crossdress without masturbating, you're a true transsexual, but if you masturbate, too, then it's just a sexual fetish.)

Liking sex too much, in the wrong way, or with the wrong people can mean you don't get access to hormones. After decades of this system, trans people learned and taught each other how to jump through all the right hoops. For some, it's just about preparing younger trans people to deal with the doctors. Many of these outdated notions have been removed since the turn of the century; however, large portions of the trans community continue to enforce them anyway.

When I was first transitioning, an older trans woman explained one benefit of testosterone blockers: They kill your sex drive. She said fetishists can't stand it, so only the true women remain. My jaw dropped at the implication that real women don't have sex drives, but I remembered her lesson—pretend not to want sex or people will judge you.

When I hook up with someone, the ghosts of those conversations are often in my head. Others invest so much attention in how trans people use our genitals. Are they expecting me to penetrate them? Will they be disappointed if I don't want to? Will they be disgusted if I do? With so many other people's desires for my body, it can be hard to know my own desires. At some points, I can't tell if I'm actually averse to certain kinds of touching or sex, or if I just think that I should be. Either way, the result is the same: anxiety if we try it.

Sex should be humanizing. It should be about what you want to do, not what you think others want you to do. That's actually a big part of why I got into making porn and erotic documentaries. I wanted a space where other trans people and I could take center stage and represent ourselves in our own vision.

I love moments in which being trans just doesn't matter. It can happen in porn, with a familiar partner, or just with someone who I know is a good ally. I don't have to stop to say, "Wait, there's something about me you should know," as tension rises for a dramatic reveal. I don't feel like there's some toxic cloud hanging over me that requires us to sit down and have a serious conversation. I can feel like any other person. In the throes of passion, I don't want to have to ask a potentially mood-killing question like "Are you afraid of seeing me completely naked?"

As it turned out, that night after speed dating, we kept our underwear on the entire time. I don't know if that's something she wanted or something she thought I wanted. With a Hitachi Magic Wand pressed between us, I stopped imagining everything that could go wrong and just focused on all the ways we could make it go right. Honestly, we probably could have benefited from some more communication. But, for once, I was grateful not to need it.

So how do you make sex great when you or your partner is trans? Do you talk it all through or do you pretend it doesn't matter? Do you plan out each move or be spontaneous? It depends on circumstance. The best advice I can give is that while sex when you're trans can be really complicated, you don't have to make it complicated.

Communication can be powerful, just don't make it be about being trans. Discuss with all your partners what words turn them off and what words make them hot. Ask someone you're with what sort of sex they want to have, what sort of touch is good, and if there are any spots or activities to avoid. Know what you might expect but don't make assumptions. Take stock of your anxieties and ask for whatever reassurances you need to feel safe. Above all, remember sex is supposed to be about fulfilling the desires of the people in the room, and you should ignore the messages from others who might judge. 

Tobi Hill-Meyer is a multiracial trans woman activist, writer, and filmmaker. She runs the feminist porn site DoingItOnline.com, and her work can be found in Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community and atHandbasketProductions.com.

A Quiz: What Kind of Sissy Are You?

From: sissymaker.com

1. What’s your favorite kind of panties?

A. Black ruffled full-bottom knickers with white lace edging

B. Cum-stained thong pulled to the side so I can get fucked

C. Whatever I can steal out of the hamper or at the laundromat

D. Pretty cotton bikinis that lay flat over my tiny clit-dick

E. Whatever looks good on Mistress’ floor while she strapon-fucks me

F. Whatever makes me look and feel the gayest

G. Panties that can stretch over my locked-up chastity device

H. My ass gets fucked so often I never have time for panties

2. How do you like to eat cum?

A. My own, licked off a silver platter at Mistress’ feet

B. Hot fresh cum straight from the cock through a gloryhole

C. I don’t, I want to be a sissy but cum freaks me out

D. My own, I can hardly taste it anyway, I only cum a few drops

E. My own, shot into my face while Mistress dildo-rapes my ass

F. Any way I can get it, girlfriend — faggots love cum

G. My wife’s boyfriend’s cum, as much and as often as he wants

H. Gallons of it from lots of men for hours on end

3. I jerk off to fantasies of sucking cock because:

A. Mistress told me it was one of my chores to perform

B. I can’t wait to go back to the gloryhole to be a cumdumpster

C. It makes jerking off in my pretty panties feel kinkier

D. My teeny dick isn’t big enough for me to stick it in anything

E. Mistress has been training me to deepthroat with her strapon

F. I love being a faggot and what’s more faggy than sucking cock?

G. I’m practicing to be a fluffer for my wife’s next gangbang

H. Because sucking cock leads to swallowing cum & I LOVE cum

4. Something you’re likely to find up my ass is:

A. A fluffy feather duster while serving tea at Mistress’ luncheon

B. A stranger’s cock while I keep on sucking at the gloryhole

C. My girlfriend’s pink rabbit vibrator while she’s working late

D. Whatever it is, it’s about twenty times bigger than my dick

E. Mistress’ strapon, or a buttplug as a “placeholder”

F. Cock cock cock — helLO, didn’t I say I was a faggot?

G. My wife’s black boyfriend’s 9-inch monster cock oh god it hurts

H. About a pint of cum from various “donors” and someone’s lost ring

5. What are you doing down there on your knees?

A. Scrubbing Mistress’ dirty stopped-up toilet with my tongue

B. Waiting for another cock to pop through the hole in the wall

C. Looking under the bed for a dirty pair of my wife’s panties

D. Looking for the magnifying glass so I can see my cock to jerk off

E. Waiting for Mistress to finish strapping on a 12-inch dildo

F. Giggling when I burp a cum-bubble after sucking off another fag

G. Weeping while my wife screams orgasmically on a huge black dick

H. Getting cock at both ends and begging for more cum

What’s Your Score, Sissy Slut?

Mostly ‘A’ Answers: FRENCH MAID SISSY
Well, well, mademoiselle…looks like you’re a frilly French Maid sissy! You long to spend your days cooking, cleaning…and serving Mistress’ huge strap-on. Imagine spending your days at my beck and call, doing my bidding as you clean my house, handwash my panties, rub my feet or eat my pussy, perform for a gathering of my fellow Mistresses or serve as the centerpiece at a sissy gangbang! Call me now to receive your orders, sissy servant.

Mostly ‘B’ Answers: COCKSUCKING GLORYHOLE SISSY
You live to suck anonymous cock, anywhere you can get it…and the easiest place to get it is at a gloryhole. You go to adult bookstores, cruise Craigslist, look for hookup bathrooms, all so you can get some cock on the downlow. We both know you’re a filthy cock-whore, so call and confess the nastiest thing you’ve done on your knees.

Mostly ‘C’ Answers: BICURIOUS WANNABE SISSY
Not yet a sissy, you fantasize about being a faggot fairy princess while you jerk off in your wife’s stolen panties and fuck yourself with her dildo. You are such a sad little Secret Sissy, hiding in the closet all alone with your cockcraving desires…you know your destiny is to be a sissy cumdumpster, darling. Might as well call me and get started.

Mostly ‘D’ Answers: TINY-CLITTY SISSY FAGGOT
Awww, it’s so cute! Poor widdle wee-willied wankers like you are pretty much doomed to be sissies due to your underendowment. You might as well wear panties 24/7, peaches, because you definitely don’t have what it takes to fill a real man’s jockies…and your panties look so pretty and flat in the front! Make sure and give me a call so that you don’t ever forget what a worthless tiny-dicked sissy loser you are.

Mostly ‘E’ Answers: STRAP-ON SISSY SLAVE
Bend over, boygirlfriend, it’s time to get your sissy ass fucked! For you strap-on buttfuck sluts, it’s all about getting reamed till you cream by my huge strap-on dildo…and no one gives fags like you a better rodeo ride than Ms. Liz. Ready to hop into the saddle, cowgirl? Give me a call so I can see you grind on my dick while you moan like the whore you are…

Mostly ‘F’ Answers: PINK-PANTIED FLAMING HOMO
You are such a fag! You love being as flamingly faggotty as possible, because you want everyone you see to know you’re a cocksucking fairy and you’re proud of it! I have 20 years of experience as a fag hag, darling — if you aren’t as queer as a three dollar bill when you call me, you will be when I get through with you!

Mostly ‘G’ Answers: CUCKOLDED HUSBAND SLAVE
You both fear and worship the huge black cocks that make your wife moan the way you never could…how did you end up on your knees in womens’ lingerie, sucking your wife’s pussy-juice off of a big fat nigger dick? It probably all started with you being a tiny-dicked wimpy whining sissyfag, don’t you think? Call me and we’ll work out how you went from straight married man to sissified cocksucking cuckold.

Mostly ‘H’ Answers: CUM-HUNGRY SISSY WHORE
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Guidelines for Sissies - Two Selections

General Guidelines for Sissies

by sissydollyanne from: malefemininitygenderrolereversal

Many of the following points are covered in the Fetlife group "sissy rules" but are listed here for completeness.

1. All body hair should be removed by shaving, or the use of commercial depilatories at least twice a week, more if necessary to remain smooth. Facial hair such as beards and mustaches, are strictly forbidden. Advanced sissies should have periodic body waxing and/or their body hair permanently removed with laser or electrolysis treatment.
2. If possible, hair on top of the head should be grown out to a longer length, with sideburns trimmed short or removed. Hair may be dyed, streaked, or tinted. Hair should be shampooed and conditioned daily and kept neatly arranged, brushed, combed, and styled, and should have their hair permed and set in a feminine style. Feminine hair pins, flowers, and bows should be used to keep the hair controlled and add interest.
3. Fingernails and toenails must be kept in immaculate condition at all times. Fingernails should be grown to a longer length and shaped in a feminine style and painted with a clear polish or kept buffed to a nice shine. Advanced sissies will wear colorful nail polish such as red or pink at all times and will have periodic mani/pedi treatments at a nail salon.
4. Only female undergarments will be worn daily such as: panties, girdles, panty girdles, pettipants, garter belts, full-fashion hose, stay-up hose, slips, teddies, chemises, bras, corsets, etc. At least 4 of these items will be worn—under normal male attire when necessary—every day. Advanced sissies will wear at least two female outer garments with their male attire in addition to the undergarments. Advanced sissies will throw away all their male underwear and only have girl's panties.

5. Loungewear around the house will consist of such things as: feminine pajamas, girl's short shorts, capris, feminine sandals or flip-flops with painted toes showing, blouses, tube tops, cute girlie tops, mini-skirts, heels, sun-dresses, etc.
6. Sleep attire will consist of feminine nightgowns, teddies, or nighties. Bra and falsies will be worn to bed also. Advanced sissies will also wear a wig and makeup to bed.
7. Only feminine deodorants, shampoos, conditioners, skincare, personal hygiene, and fragrances will be used.
8. Eyebrows will be plucked and shaped at least once a week to achieve a more feminine appearance. Hints of makeup should be used daily, even with male attire. Choose one type of makeup each day and use it lightly so as not to be too obvious, e.g., lightly penciled brows of a touch of mascara. Advanced sissies will use more makeup and be more obvious. Advanced sissies will also have ears pierced and wear appropriate earrings in each ear.
9. Each day, perform some chore or service for a woman without compensation. Examples: make and serve coffee at the office, run errands, carry packages, give up your seat or place in line.
10. Once a week, cross-dress as completely as possible and live as if you are a woman. Wear makeup, wig, and dress in a complete ensemble with appropriate accessories, including bracelets, rings, necklace, earrings, dress, hose, heels, purse, etc. Spend a minimum of four hours as a woman. Take at least one picture to keep in an album. While dressed, carry out an appropriate feminine chore or activity, e.g., housework, laundry, sewing, kitchen duties, shopping. Advanced sissies will cross-dress completely 7 or more times a week and will frequently appear in public as a female.
11. In the presence of a woman or a group of women you will always be passive and subordinate. Always smile and present a cheerful outlook. Don't argue with a woman or presume to correct her. Always be obedient, cooperative and courteous. Open doors, hold chairs, and be very attentive when you are asked to act as an escort or chauffeur. Never make sexual overtures or attempt an aggressive role in social relationships. Advanced sissies will be noticeable obsequious in public and in the presence of a Mistress or Dominant woman.
12. Exercise regularly, follow a sensible diet, get plenty of sleep, and keep your body physically fit and trim. A healthy sissie is a happy and useful sissie!
13. Once a month, mimic the female menstrual cycle. If possible, keep this on a calendar or use an app for this purpose. Pay attention to heavy and light days, fertile and ovulation days, and track your moods. Keep pantyliners, pads, and tampons in your purse for emergencies. Stay chaste during your cycle.
14. Maintain a regular diary of feminine thoughts and your cross-dressing experiences. Keep notes on purchases, exercises, diet, good deeds, feminine activities, and social interactions. Note what you did well, and also note where you need to improve. Keep track of your menstrual cycle and sexual life.
15. Read women's magazines daily for information on trends and fashion. Also read women's books daily such as romance. Watch TV shows and ads of interest to women, e.g., skin-care ads, soap operas, gossip, dancing, and fashion shows.
16. Cultivate a feminine hobby such as: doll collecting, needlework, cooking, floral arrangements.
17. Choose a feminine name and use it as much as possible. Practice cursive writing that looks more feminine, dotting the i's with little hearts and decorating with smiley faces, flowers, or other feminine touches.
18. Study feminine mannerisms and speech patterns and do your best to imitate them, even when dressed as a male. Always sit to pee. Practice sitting with knees together or legs crossed at the ankles. Bend your wrists and elbows and carry your arms above your waist. Practice a shorter gait and make your hips swing a little.
19. If possible, stay locked in a chastity device to prevent masturbation and erections. This will also help you to focus on feminization.
20. If not possible to stay chaste, masturbate only when dressed as a girl and in a girlie manner, such as rubbing yourself through your panties, and/or rubbing your nipples. Do not masturbate like a man. Masturbate only to sissy porn, such a pictures of men, cocks, sissies sucking cocks, sissies being disciplined or fucked, or girl-on-girl sex. Always taste or eat your cum. Never masturbate for 7 days during your menstrual period. Advanced sissies will abstain from ejaculation for as long as possible and will learn how to do erotic blow-jobs and extract cum from men. Advanced sissies will learn the art of deep-throating and cum swallowing.

Some Sissy Sex Rules

by pussyfreecuck From: https://fetlife.com/groups/38424/group_posts/5566865

Sissy Sex Rules

• Sissies will be obedient to all Females and Real Men at all times, with priority given in this order: 1) Genetic Females, 2) Pre or post Transgender Females, 3) Real Men—Black, 4) Real Men—white, 5) Other sissies.
• Sissies will give top priority to the sexual satisfaction of Females and Real Men to the exclusion of their own, and will never say no when sexual satisfaction is requested.
• Sissies will use their tongues and mouths as their primary sexual tools when providing pleasure to Females and/or Real Men. For Females this will be as directed on the pussy, ass, nipples, or wherever they choose. For Real Men this will be as directed on the cock, balls, ass, or wherever they choose.
• When permitted, sissies may also use other sexual tools such as: fingers, hands, vibrators, dildos.
• Sissies will be skillful in the art of sensual massage, including the use of sensual oils, aromatherapy, romantic lighting and music.
• Sissies will be skillful in the art of rimming.
• Sissies will be skillful in the art of pussy eating, kissing, and clitoral sucking.
• Sissies will be skillful in the art of cock kissing, licking and sucking.
• Sissies will not be shy when it comes to licking, tasting, or swallowing a Real Man's cum and will eagerly work to bring it forth.
• Sissies are girls and will never masturbate in a male fashion.
• Sissies will be skillful in the art of masturbating in a female fashion, but are only allowed to do so if given permission, or specifically requested by a Female or Real Man.

• Sissies will accept strap-on sex from Genetic Females and fucking from the cocks of Transgender Females or Real Men in their lubricated sissy pussy and will always respond in a girly manner in whatever position desired, including spread-eagled on her back, doggy, or cowgirl style.
• Sissies will keep their sissy pussy clean and lubricated, plugged with butt plugs, and ready for sex when desired.
• Sissies will never ask for sexual activity with Genetic or Transgender Females. It is always at their request and discretion and dependent on the sissie's obedience.
• Sissies WILL ask for sexual activity with Real Men who are receptive and will allow it, and will use their mouths or sissy pussies as pussy substitutes.
• Sissies will not discriminate on the basis of race, color, creed, or gender and will eagerly serve whites, blacks, or other.
• Sissies will accept chastity from Females and/or Real Men who desire it.
• Sissies will remain pussy-free, and leave pussy fucking to Real Men.